day007 wrote:They are not healthy options, but that's what his friends are eating and it's not a diabetes-specific problem so that does just sound like you're trying to be more controlling and getting him to come home for dinner when he'd rather be out with his friends!
If you actually check back at my original post the comment about a home-cooked meal was an aside comment based on what he is eating when he is out and nothing to do with trying to control him coming home for dinner.
My issue is not so much to do with the food as it is the food after NOT testing his blood sugars, at least if he is at at home having a meal I can get him to check his sugars beforehand, which is where the comment stemmed from.
At the end of the day, he is diabetic and yes I generally allow him to have what he wants when he wants it, but this shouldn't be at the expense of his health. If he was out all day had a pizza, chips a McD's and a mars bar but had done his sugars and his HBA1C was at a healthy level then I wouldn't have any issue. But as it goes, he does all of this without even checking them AT ALL and his HBA1C is far from at a healthy level!
He has done a DAFNE course at his hospital, none of it was taken in as he apparently knows everything they were saying anyway (according to him).
His background insulin has recently been increased as instructed via his nurse who has now taken to get him to text her his 4am sugar readings after weeks of asking.
I appreciate all the replies by the way. I think maybe I need to back off a little but it is difficult when you know that he knows better and when I am so concerned about his health. If I wasn't concerned and trying to help guide him to do things the correct way then I would be guilty of neglect!!