Can't Cope With Other People

[Robinredbreast]

Reading all of these posts, my heart goes out to each and every one of you. I know you are all struggling trying to come to terms with the diabetes, the lifestyle changes, the constant medication and the feeling that your life isn't your own any more - it isn't going the way you want it to.

But spare a thought for those on the other end, the opposite side of all this. I am my husband's wife, his friend and his carer. I am the one explaining to our children that Dad doesn't mean it, he's stressed, he'll get better. On top of this, I'm the only one who does the housework and the cooking.

As far as I know I haven't done anything wrong. I do my best to make sure he has absolutely everything he could want.....but it seems that this is not enough. I am not doing enough, I haven't waved a magic wand and made it all go away. I wish I could - don't we all?

But meanwhile, I am the butt of his public snideness, his sulking and his I-don't-give-toss-about-you attitude.

It feels like a very heavy burden to carry. I hope it gets lighter for all of us.

Julia

I know exactly how you feel at times, but I don't know if its the diabetes, the complications of diabetes, getting older or something else, life in general . I don't have a partner,I don't think I could cope with that as well!!!!!! I hope things start to pick up for soon. Best wishes RRB

[GraceK]

Give yourself a break Glados ... you're perfectly entitled to NOT tolerate what you don't agree with. I think that's perfectly healthy. I really dislike the word 'tolerance' because it smacks of having to 'put up and shut up' with things our heart doesn't agree with. Yet we're constantly bombarded with the flipping word and made to feel it's a good thing to do.

Yes, there are some things we all have to COMPROMISE on but they're usually not major issues. And yes as we get older and realise we might, perhaps, have compromised ourselves a little too much, tolerated a little too much and not gone along with our own hearts enough, we then get angry.

I think that's what's happening to you. You're taking stock and re-evaluating and readjusting not only your viewpoints but your whole attitude to life and whose company you want to spend it with.

I've been through the same thing with my family. I got more and more tired of picking up after, cleaning up after, being there for everyone because basically I'd become a doormat they took for granted. They didn't even notice when I was becoming more and more ill by the day.

Some people say that one of the character traits of diabetics is their desire to please everyone and make sure everyone is OK, so perhaps at some point we all begin to take stock. I know I've been there for every member of my family, parents, sister, husband and children through thick and thin, and every illness - and there've been many. But now it's my turn ... there's no-one in sight. All too busy.

[Millerite]

If depression is directly connected with what you're going through, then I'd suggest getting that addressed. I don't know you and am not a doctor, so am not about to start talking meds etc.
What I will say, is that I have had depression and didn't find that it helped at all with my diabetes. Getting the depression sorted helped a lot in attempting to stabilise my diabetes. It's rubbish now, however that's a whole other story.
I get the irritation, mood swings. or should I say I get that you have them. often low blood sugar will do that . Luckily for all concerned, my girlfriend is just about the most laid back person I've ever met, she sees that I'm getting argumentative and suggests that I do a test, or asks if I fancy a Pepsi? Whatever issue you want to sort out first is up to you, I'd suggest that anything would be easier to sort out if not depressed though.