That sounds tough,
@janeliz.
It doesn't sound like you are getting a good standard of care from the hospital, or to give them the benefit of the doubt perhaps they are trying not to overwhelm you with too much information.
DAFNE is Dose Adjustment for Normal Eating. It's a course that teaches you how insulin interacts with the food we eat, and therefore how to work out how much insulin to have with a meal in order to keep your blood sugars stable. That means you will never have to skip a midday meal, because whether you want to eat a single pea, a sandwich or a tub of ice cream, you will be able to adjust your dosage to stop you having a hypo or shooting up to crazy figures. Not only does it give you this flexibility in what you eat, but it teaches you about how factors beside food affect your glucose levels: for example stress, illness and exercise.
I did the course in one week, going to the hospital every day from 9-5pm. Other people do one day a week for a few months. It will depend on your hospital.
If that sounds like something you'd find valuable, I would ask your diabetes team to book you onto the course or whichever version of it your hospital offers. Hopefully they will be pleased that you want to take control of your diabetes and will do it, but you might have to fight your case by citing how much healthier it will make you. If they are really resistant let us know, and people on the forum will have great advice.