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Does being diabetic affect your relationship?

Discussion in 'Type 1 Diabetes' started by Jibran_Khan, Nov 20, 2017.

  1. Jibran_Khan

    Jibran_Khan Type 1 · Active Member

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    Well I am diabetic, this thought just came in my mind.
    Does it affect relationship I any way?
     
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  2. ickihun

    ickihun Type 2 · Expert

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    It can do. Every relationship is different.
    Some it is a big part of their life, some only need a little care and attention to manage their diabetes.
    Its making sure diabetes doesn't rule the roost, only in life threatening times.
    Many partners want you to take ownership of the diabetes yourself, and manage as much as possible and involve them if you are needing external help from self-management.
    However I've seen a few wives post here so they can help their husband in his management.

    Its never unreasonable to insist on the care you need to keep good management, ever!
     
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  3. JMK1954

    JMK1954 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    My husband saved me from life-threatening hypos several times when I was pregnant. I was already diabetic when I met him and although I had told him quite a lot about how I manage things, it was only when those emergencies happened that he fully realised just how serious a condition diabetes is. My son is now 25 and perfectly healthy, but he and I both owe our lives to my husband. Whoever you share your life with has to learn that diabetes is part of it and cannot be ignored. If you have taken time to get to know someone, they will have learned about your diabetes from you. You are the best person to explain things to them. Lack of knowledge is what makes people frightened of it.
     
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  4. tiredoftrying2017

    tiredoftrying2017 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    I'd say diabetes has the potential to affect a relationship but it shouldn't if you are in a good relationship.

    For example, I've seen my brothers get frustrated and stressed with my dad because he's frustrated/snapping but retrospectively I know that those behaviours were a result of uncontrolled blood sugars.

    Personally, i have a great husband who is very supportive and understanding. I wouldn't say he gets it completely but he does try to. That wasn't the case when we first met, I'd hide it from him and never really explained it.

    I'd say the key is communication!
     
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  5. novorapidboi26

    novorapidboi26 Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Been married nearly 5 years, together for 10, so its not effected mine, in any meaningful way anyway.......obviously the condition can cause tiredness and prolonged illness which can effect the time you spend together but for me the actual management of it day to day is down to me....
     
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  6. Jkoko56

    Jkoko56 Type 1 · Member

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    "Whoever you share your life with has to learn that diabetes is part of it and cannot be ignored". This!
    Please don't hide your diabetes from your friends, colleagues or current/future partners. You don't have to thrust it in their face at first meeting but you need to be open.
    I was diagnosed at 15 and met my now husband when I was 19. He's always had my back, sometimes knows I'm low before I do. Irritating- but on my side!
    Colleagues? If the job application asked medical questions I've always been truthful. If I've got the job I've always let colleagues know in a casual way. Once or twice they've insistently offered me sweets and yes, sometimes they were right, I was low. The office bitch told me how lucky I was to not to have gone blind or lost my legs! Thanks, my biggest fears, but there you go!
    Sex? I'm female. I understand there can be a problem in some cases with erections. I think there's a thread on here about that problem. I would say, be brave and ask your diabetic advisor if necessary. From a female point of view I'd say seek advice rather than ignoring it and making you both suffer.
    Good luck! I'm now retired. Two children and still happy with my husband.
     
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  7. Jaylee

    Jaylee Type 1 · Moderator
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    Only if you allow it to become a "personal demon".. ;)
     
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    skipchaser_ Type 1 · Newbie

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    How true jaylee ...
     
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    9893973788 · Active Member

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    No,jibran don't lose your confidence.Diabetes does not effects relationship,however good relationships can improve your health
     
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  10. sunilk441

    sunilk441 Type 1 · Newbie

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    Yes
     
  11. ScottyD

    ScottyD Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Only if you let it in my opinion. I met my girlfriend just after my diagnosis - using the 3 months to get my medical back! She's always got my back, asking questions and showing a genuine interest. When out and about she always asked if I have taken insulin when eating if she never seen be inject with the pump. Can't ask for anything more!

    At work, I've flown with nothing but supportive captains and has always resulted in the question 'so Scott, can you still drink alcohol on nights out or days off?' Making a light hearted joke about it at work helps with the time!
     
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  12. sunilk441

    sunilk441 Type 1 · Newbie

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    Diabetes affects your sexual relationship
     
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    Robinredbreast Type 1 · Oracle

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    Diabetes can affect a relationship, emotionally and physically too, but................ at the end of the day, having a supportive and loving partner in your life, to share life's up's and down's with, can be wonderful, so don't let diabetes put anyone off from finding that special person. Diabetes is just a small part of who we are.
     
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    Billy7764 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    As the saying goes "in sickness and in health"
     
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    yingtong Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Absolutely not,I've been married for 48years and type1 for 56years and have 4 children.I imagine it could if let it!
     
  16. NoKindOfSusie

    NoKindOfSusie Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    I can't imagine anyone would consider me a very desirable catch in this state.
     
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    kev-w Type 1 · Active Member

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    As far as it goes just the other day my ex told me she'd never date another diabetic.

    "Lucky them" I replied :p
     
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  18. Mike D

    Mike D Type 2 · Expert

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    One never knows :)
     
  19. rayhigginson

    rayhigginson Type 2 · Member

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    Yep it’s killed mine after 18 years! Only found out I’m T2D back in January 2017 doc put me on metformin which gave me all the side affects including mood swings! The ex only said3weeks ago she can’t do it anymore! Thanks glad that the docs changed my meds but the damage has been done.......
    (It’s my little girl I really feel for)
    Also I stayed when the ex had all her health problems (she’s only32) most blokes would have done a runner but I guess that I loved her?
    Oh well sorry to bore you all with this but you asked. Laters
     
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