Hi all,
I have introduced myself in the greeting section.
My name is David and my wife Vicky is 36 and was diagnosed type I about 14 years ago.
We have been together for 20 years and married for 10. She has always been the organised, sensible, calm one.
She had always been unbelievably well controlled (between 4-7 every time) it got the point where she was on such a small amount of insulin that the doctors even half jokingly suggested that she stop injecting just to see what happened. Doctors asked her whether she would consider doing talks on how to control your levels and to speak to newly diagnosed diabetics.
All was well up until a few years ago.
It all started with the introduction of the wonderful DAPNE course….”eat what you want when you want, and if you don’t feel like eating don’t”. It sounded great, she went from being almost scared of sugar and sweet foods to suddenly being able to eat whatever she wanted again…
At the time our two boys were 2 and 4 and Vicky was able to cope easily with them and the new DAPNE regime and juggle a hundred other things too.
However, over the last few years, her amazing control has all but disappeared, her levels are regularly in the teen because she has even not calculated correctly or has forgotten to give herself her injection straight after her food (mostly because someone wants a drink or someone is hurt or not doing as they are told or fighting…you get the idea)…on top of all that her Dad died which certainly didn’t help things.
She is now constantly reminded by her consultant that her levels are far too high and that she has to bring down her HbA1c to avoid complications later ion life. All of which she is well aware of. However, DAFNE doesn’t seem to consider what a full time mum has to go through on a daily basis. If she was still working in an office, she could have her little alarm clock to remind her to eat / inject, or have time at lunch to go meditate or have some quite HER time or attend yoga classes (all of which have been suggested as ways to overcome her high levels and put some structure back into her life) but most of which are nigh on impossible with two young boys.
I have suggested that she scrap DAPNE and try and go back to her old regime, eating at the same time of the day and giving herself a fixed amount at each meal, but she says that the DAPNE course has removed that fear of food and she couldn’t switch back to her old way of thinking. I work quite long hours and am out of the house before they all wake up and normally arrive home from work around 7pm by which time the day is almost finished and I don’t know what I can do to help her. I have suggested ringing at the same time in the morning and in the afternoon to check that she has injected but with best will in the world, either I’m busy at work or she is busy doing mum things.
She is worried and scared that everything is down to her and that if anything happens to her she will only have herself to blame and I just don’t know what else I can do.
Thanks for listening
David
I have introduced myself in the greeting section.
My name is David and my wife Vicky is 36 and was diagnosed type I about 14 years ago.
We have been together for 20 years and married for 10. She has always been the organised, sensible, calm one.
She had always been unbelievably well controlled (between 4-7 every time) it got the point where she was on such a small amount of insulin that the doctors even half jokingly suggested that she stop injecting just to see what happened. Doctors asked her whether she would consider doing talks on how to control your levels and to speak to newly diagnosed diabetics.
All was well up until a few years ago.
It all started with the introduction of the wonderful DAPNE course….”eat what you want when you want, and if you don’t feel like eating don’t”. It sounded great, she went from being almost scared of sugar and sweet foods to suddenly being able to eat whatever she wanted again…
At the time our two boys were 2 and 4 and Vicky was able to cope easily with them and the new DAPNE regime and juggle a hundred other things too.
However, over the last few years, her amazing control has all but disappeared, her levels are regularly in the teen because she has even not calculated correctly or has forgotten to give herself her injection straight after her food (mostly because someone wants a drink or someone is hurt or not doing as they are told or fighting…you get the idea)…on top of all that her Dad died which certainly didn’t help things.
She is now constantly reminded by her consultant that her levels are far too high and that she has to bring down her HbA1c to avoid complications later ion life. All of which she is well aware of. However, DAFNE doesn’t seem to consider what a full time mum has to go through on a daily basis. If she was still working in an office, she could have her little alarm clock to remind her to eat / inject, or have time at lunch to go meditate or have some quite HER time or attend yoga classes (all of which have been suggested as ways to overcome her high levels and put some structure back into her life) but most of which are nigh on impossible with two young boys.
I have suggested that she scrap DAPNE and try and go back to her old regime, eating at the same time of the day and giving herself a fixed amount at each meal, but she says that the DAPNE course has removed that fear of food and she couldn’t switch back to her old way of thinking. I work quite long hours and am out of the house before they all wake up and normally arrive home from work around 7pm by which time the day is almost finished and I don’t know what I can do to help her. I have suggested ringing at the same time in the morning and in the afternoon to check that she has injected but with best will in the world, either I’m busy at work or she is busy doing mum things.
She is worried and scared that everything is down to her and that if anything happens to her she will only have herself to blame and I just don’t know what else I can do.
Thanks for listening
David