We are all so different, I don't think we can answer most of those questions for you.
Your feeling bad at 7 may have been because 15 mins earlier you were up in the 10s. Or it may have been that your bg was rising at the time, and got higher later.
4-7 is generally considered 'normal'
But lots of non diabetics hang out in the 3s quite comfortably
And personally, I don't want to go higher than 7 (although sometimes I do, because I'm human)
The point at which is gets unhealthy, is equally debatable.
Jenny Rhul (on her
www.bloodsugar101.com website) would tell you that at numbers greater than 7.8 you are risking long term damage to beta cells (the ones that produce insulin)
The NHS will usually say 'normal people can spike to 10'
- to which I answer 'yeah, and I suspect that if they are spiking to 10 then they are heading in the pre-diabetic and diabetic direction'
General advice on this forum tends to be that if your bg rises by more than 2mmol at 2 hours after food, then you have eaten more carbs than your body can handle. But that advice is handed out to type 2 diabetics, most of whom don't have hypos, and don't have RH.
We RHers tend to have different timings. We often spike faster, drop faster and drop lower than type 2 diabetics. So we need to find out what our spike and drop timings are. And it will vary for different meals/foods since thinks like pastry digest a lot slower than low fat sponge cake. And icecream will spike fast, unless you eat it after Sunday lunch, when your body has to digest the roast chicken and the veg before it really gets to grips with the icecream. See what I mean?
Really, the best thing I can suggest is that you map out YOUR reactions to YOUR foods. You will spot a pattern whereby you can see how fast, how high and the consequences.
Incidentally, this was how I spotted my Gluten Thing. By getting a Freestyle Libre I was able to see the rises, falls and drops on the screen, rather than isolated prick test results. This enabled me to see that the highest fastest rises were from gluten containing foods, and that I only got RH when I had eaten gluten recently.