Oh
@MrsK13 what a difficult situation. I'm sending a big supportive hug.
Your husband had the curveball of his diagnosis at a massive time for both of you, with the arrival of your first child - what a rollercoaster for the pair of you! Lots to handle all at once, for all of you.
And it sounds as if he hasn't yet got a handle on his control. But it's never too late to start.
I was fortunate - well, I consider myself fortunate - in that I was 11 when I was diagnosed, and I was in hospital for a fortnight and then off school for another fortnight, and then it was a gradual process of getting back to my normal life with the support of my parents and my brother, and my friends, and my teachers. I wasn't a grown-up with obligations and responsibilities and a new baby and a job to deal with.
Is your husband's DSN supportive and understanding? In your position I would want to be - as indeed you sound to be - as involved and invested in my husband's diabetes as I possibly could be. And I'd want strong backup from my team at the hospital.
Is it possible for you to talk to him about - and then arranging - an appointment with us diabetes team for the both of you? I would strongly recommend it. Urge them to book him a place on the next DAFNE course. Get them to spend some time with the both of you talking through what their recommendations are for improved diabetes control.
He needs to be testing.
He needs to be taking his insulin.
He needs to be counting carbs.
He needs to adopt his diabetes as part of his life.
And he needs to do it soon, to minimise the risk of complications. We've all heard about the potential for sight issues, kidney problems, amputations. But there are other complications too - what about erectile dysfunction, fungal infections? These are things that a chap can - and I'm sure would want to - avoid - with improved control of his diabetes.
It's so important for his future, and for the future of your family.
I know he's got a good team on his side - because you're on it,
@MrsK13 . But MrK13 needs to be an active member of his own team too. And soon.
Sending love.
Snapsy