Hi Brian. Maybe break this little lot down into smaller bits to start with?
Accordingly, one of the meds you are taking is for prostate trouble, although I'm not a doctor, I do know that prostate issues cause urination problems. If you had the cystoscopy recently, that could also have inflamed the bladder temporarily, making it worse. Your doc will really need to advise you on this, but I think you should go back - incontinence isn't something that can just be dismissed. On that topic, there is such a thing as a continence nurse, and you may be able to get pants etc, on prescription. Ask doc for a referral.
I think most of us would advise that you do check your own blood sugars. It is very common for type 2's to be told not to test for all manner of reasons, but what it really boils down to is the cost of test strips is expensive. Many of us here use a meter called the SD Codefree, it has the cheapest strips and is very simple to use - look on Amazon.
Lastly - your diet. Again, the "healthy" diet many are told to eat (brown bread, low fat spread, brown rice, porridge etc) actually causes the blood sugars to rise. All carbohydrates turn to glucose in the blood so the more you can reduce them, the better it would be. The best way of finding out what you can eat without it spiking your levels is to test yourself, before and two hours after meals is a good guide to start with.
Hope this helps a bit