Thank you all I have already had to cancel the doctors appointment because he won't go as for an ambulance he would refuse to go he knows what can happen he did this with his leg wouldn't go in had antis at home he went into dka and lost his leg I have talked to him about he he just won't listen to anything I have had to watch him slowly killing himself over the last few year as he don't do his insulin properly he sometimes goes days without doing any i did take over the insulin control but I had to stop as I was putting everthing to getting them down but he would just snack and wouldn't take insulin for it it got so stressful it made me ill
Is there anyone at all he would listen to? A trusted friend? A DSN? A favourite GP?
If I was you, I'd try asking him how he'd feel if it was the opposite way round - that he'd have to watch you hurting yourself and refusing help.
I think you should also bear in mind that sometimes when people are really ill, their decision-making ability can be impaired. Although you've had to,cancel the Dr appt, could you speak to the GP and get advice? You could tell them what's happening and see if they have any solutions.