I don't know which way to turn, my daughter was diagnosed Type 1 just before her 13th birthday 7 years ago.
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Right I have been a diabetic pretty much all my life or since I was 9 months old. I was not given the option to do it to my self, I was not in a careless accident or anything like that. I was given mine by another human being incharge of baby sitting me, she overdosed me with asprin at 9 months old, putting me in a coma for a few weeks. The point being I know the resentment personally and deeply about not wanting something having control over your entire life and in my case having it cause by careless other. The first thing I am thinking of is what size needles your daughter is using, I am on bd microfine 4mm or 5mm needles. They dont hurt or cause any pain even if you move them whilst jabbing( Not reccomended) I too was like your daughter, When I was 17 Was the first time I took a lantus solostar injection of 60 units and drank a 1 liter bottle of Jack Daniels whisky. Not beacuse I resented it which I did and not beacuse I was feeling limmited or suffering any major things (Lost grandfather at this point too) I did it beacuse I was out of control. When a Diabetic is out of control all emotions are amplified ten fold this includes (Depression, Random Bursts of anger(no Reason / unprovoked) Anxiety, Fear/ Dread Random sadness, stress and confusion.) These emotions have a huge affect in the care we take in our selves known as a Diabetic Burnout (DB) This is mostly so far everyday life situational living. Then you have those of us that take it those steps further to DKA Ketoacidosis, This is where keytones a in the blood have caused it to become acidic and starting to eat our insides (nice huh?) This is extreemly painful often compared to torture. The effects are long term (Sight loss, Hearing loss, Tinitus, Numbness, heart conditions and complications, mental complications, loss of limbs, violent stomache cramps, migranes and even dihorea and vomiting. All sense or compementus thought is gone at this point with heavy lethargia(Tiredness) Your daughter is on a path of self destruction and its only a downward spiral, stopping it early is the best chance for FEWER COMPLICATIONS. In the world we live in and the way it is going politically and internationally or even at you basic home can be difficult to deal with.
Here is the important message to the parent:
Fighting, shouting and trying to control your daughter in any way will push her away (Emotional instability Mentioned above) moving her from pillar to post ie dads yours anywhere inbetween is STRESS (Causes the blood sugar coaunt to rise - Proven)
Any arguing or saying you know better and you have donbe reasearch or heard this or got told by a doctor (again pushes away and interacts stress and angst against you.) In your daughters own right and all diabetics the ones that knows best is ourselves as only we can control it, after all its 24/7 for us even in our sleep.
So the trick is to get her to want to control it herself, give her the power give her the choices, let her educate herself.
(on the other side imagine if I told you right now you can never drive again) (Loss of freedom) it changes everything and it would seem incredibly unfair ( hence drivers caught during bans)
There are many courses available for teaching diabetics how to monitor and control thier diabetes and how to make it easier to manage. for exsample if your daughter is on novo rapid, there are certain meals she can eat that require no insulin to consume. ie scramblkes eggs or eggs in general, plain tuna and salad the list is huge, and some of the meals that do you can swap around so if you have to inject you can take less insulin meaning less pain.
a Pump is not the answer at all its cumbersome, can be irratating, its not worn through out the night, can be ripped out during nap or fall or anything like that. Can be incredibly painful, not ony that but I myself have know two friends Diabetics to use it and have died from being overdosed in malfunctions.
My main Priority for you and your daughter would be to get those communication lines open again and get them stronger, to do this take her out make her feel important explain that you are willing to learn with her( and go through it with her) be a listener and an advisor(when she asks)
start going to the hospital more frequently and really push your medical support on finding the right solution for her maybe diffrent injections that you only inject once or twice a day.
The positive side to it (restored relationship and bond)
There will be a cure coming in our life time
Reccomendations:
Seek councilling (Possibly private)
Seek education (private or nhs BERTIE Course)
Seek more support ( From medical staff - Put foot up bums)
Restore relationship!
Time is precsious not to be wasted on war with eachother, there is enough of that already.
Find alternatives (to pumps or multiple jabbings if it helps)
I am Alexander St Clair Jones Diabetic for 27 years through not fault of my own
attempted suicide twice
KTD more thank i care to share
But I am making myself better beacuse when that cure comes I wanna be first inline for it.
(to save people like your daughter)
yours faithfully
A. Jones