Dear all,
I know this is a bit of a random post but I was wondering if anyone can provide me with any help and advice. I have been reading several posts about various topics and has made me feel comfortable to post on this forum.
I have been with my girlfriend for two and a half years now and she suffers from type 1 diabetes. She is now 24 and has suffered since the age of 13. As I come from an Indian background it has been very difficult for me to introduce my gf to my parents, but then I took the courage and told them about her a few months ago. They met her for the first time last weekend and they were very happy and really liked her.
The issue I have is they were not aware she was diabetic, I told them two days ago and since then they have been very concerned. They are very concerened about her future and the concept of her having kids. My dad has been seeking advice from various friends at his workplace and they all have a very negative view saying she will loose her eyesight, she won't be able to have children, her health will seriously deteriorate as the years pass by, she will suffer a lot.
This has not helped them in the slightest and has created even more worry for them. I love my gf to bits and really want to spend the rest of my life with her and marry her in the next year or two. I know for a fact that she feels very much the same about me. But the fact that I have been raised in a traditional Indian family I have always aimed to please my parents and have put them first for everything and them accepting my girlfriend with open arms and treating her like she does not have diabetes means a lot to me
I am really stuck and really confused as to what to do, I feel like I am falling into depression and finding it really diffcult to cope as I love my gf anf love my parents too. I don't know how to explain to my parents and make them understand about diabetes.
I just want to make it clear that my parents have not been rude etc they have been trying to be supportive and be positive but they are very concerned and feel that if I marry her the future will hold a great deal of pain and unhappiness.
I would appreciate any advice that could help me with this situation.
Kind regards,
Vik
I know this is a bit of a random post but I was wondering if anyone can provide me with any help and advice. I have been reading several posts about various topics and has made me feel comfortable to post on this forum.
I have been with my girlfriend for two and a half years now and she suffers from type 1 diabetes. She is now 24 and has suffered since the age of 13. As I come from an Indian background it has been very difficult for me to introduce my gf to my parents, but then I took the courage and told them about her a few months ago. They met her for the first time last weekend and they were very happy and really liked her.
The issue I have is they were not aware she was diabetic, I told them two days ago and since then they have been very concerned. They are very concerened about her future and the concept of her having kids. My dad has been seeking advice from various friends at his workplace and they all have a very negative view saying she will loose her eyesight, she won't be able to have children, her health will seriously deteriorate as the years pass by, she will suffer a lot.
This has not helped them in the slightest and has created even more worry for them. I love my gf to bits and really want to spend the rest of my life with her and marry her in the next year or two. I know for a fact that she feels very much the same about me. But the fact that I have been raised in a traditional Indian family I have always aimed to please my parents and have put them first for everything and them accepting my girlfriend with open arms and treating her like she does not have diabetes means a lot to me
I am really stuck and really confused as to what to do, I feel like I am falling into depression and finding it really diffcult to cope as I love my gf anf love my parents too. I don't know how to explain to my parents and make them understand about diabetes.
I just want to make it clear that my parents have not been rude etc they have been trying to be supportive and be positive but they are very concerned and feel that if I marry her the future will hold a great deal of pain and unhappiness.
I would appreciate any advice that could help me with this situation.
Kind regards,
Vik