You poor thing. Diabetes affects us because we have to live with it but also affects our partners who live with it in a very different way. I was diagnised at 56 and after 20 years of stable, loving marriage but my husband struggles with it. I recognise a lot of what you are saying as my husband does some of those things too. I try to view it as "on a good day" vs "on a bad day". So on a good day my husband has moved to low carb meals, found alternatives to rice and pasta, and bought a diabetic cook book (he does the cooking). And on a very good day, when we are walking and I have a hypo (often) he asks if I want to go home rather than continue and stands waiting for my sugar levels to pick up. On a bad day he becomes a self-endorsed diabetes expert, makes unfair comparsions with managing T2 and implies. or even says, I am not doing things right.
When I was diagnosed he told everyone, without asking me if that was okay, and I got on a bus one day and the driver said "sorry to hear about the diabetes"! But if I mention it in public he tells me to stop talking about it
I think he struggles to know what to do. He can't do much on the practical side - we have to do that ourselves - and he can see it affects me. What I need is emotional support but he's a hubbie, they don't always give us that, only on a good day.
what I did? Got talking to my close friends. Started laughing about the ridiculous things we have to do and the effect it has on us. Cried on the shoulder of a caring friend/ family member. And accepted my husband for what he is - we all have our limitations and maybe inside he is angry that I have this wretched disease?
Anne