Dear Cathy N
Thank you so much just for listening/reading my post... There are times when I feel so isolated. I have little contact with my family, and my partner is the same with his. After the shock of being told diabetes cannot be cured he seemed to adjusting to a lifestyle change. The Sugar aspect is major because he has the worse sweet tooth I know, and is worse than any woman I know where chocolate is involved. My attempts to make it easier was to stop buying sweets, biscuits etc, his answer to that was to buy it himself... And worse again he would eat it in bed. Sometimes it would be a 200g bar of cadburys chocolate, or honey roasted peanuts. While watching TV it would be half a litre of ice cream.
His smoking was always a big thing with his GP.. He had a shocking cough, smoked between 40 and 50 a day but would only admit to 15!! He was tested for angina, and COPD, when all the time it was a bout of undiagnosed pneumonia, but he was told the smoking has to stop or you will die, as his lungs had continued to deteriorate after the pneumonia.
We joined a gym together,am no angel myself on the food front and have spent my life from the age of 13 over weight... But I am not an ill person and I do eat extremely healthily 95% of the time. I take no medication for anything at all... Got a bit of arthritis but can live with that.
I love the excercise, he hates it. I didn't push it, just pointed out the long term advantages.
He has now given up smoking 3 times and each time has returned to it. This time it's been accompanied by a night out drinking, and the following day he is absolutely out of it... No good to any one. It often takes him 2-3 days to recover fully. All the time I worry...
He won't do counselling or forums... Even though I believe he knows a lot of what people say is right.
We both have first hand experience of diabetes within the family. My father suffered the onset of Chronic Diabetes following an accident aged 16 which left him in a coma. The diabetes although well controlled took his life at 36, with multiple organ failure. My partners father developed Type 2 diabetes in his 60s, and like my partner refused to change his lifestyle.. Causing many complications including the loss of the toes on both feet, and many hospital stays to try and bring his diabetes under control. He sadly passed away on Valentines Day 2012 as a result of Prostate Cancer.
I am at my wits end to be honest.. I feel lost and very alone... Every aspect of our relationship has suffered since the diabetes and depression.
It helps immensely just knowing that someone hears me.. Thank you.