Youd think i would of joined a forum like this years ago. But i didnt.
Im a single parent with 4 kids. One a 15 yr old female diabetic type 1, one other, an 11 yr old autistic girl with the mind of a toddler and in nappies 24/7 due to a mega colon, another a 13 yr old grunting lad and the last a 9 yr old going on 26.
My eldest daughter, Vicky.. was diagnosed when she was 11, it will be 4 years tomorrow from when she was first diagnosed and ended up in hospital for a week. Ever since, she has been unstable, can be non compliant, will refuse to take insulin, will refuse to do checks and not let me do it, her last background check was 11, She has nearly died twice through DKA, been admitted to hospital several times for it.. she has been admitted before for non compliance, been admitted because her numbers were out of control for some reason even when ive taken over doing her checks and administering insulin. She is on novarapid and levamir. She has in total 45 units of slow acting a day split into two doses. She was last admitted on christmas day and its looking like she will be in again today. Waiting to her from the registrar at the hospital. Blood sugars 8.8, ketones 4.6.
Please excuse my babbling, waffling, probably horrendous spelling mistakes but its all coming out now.
My daughter is in the TAC system which i hate as each time i go to a meeting im told im neglecting my daughters physical, emotional and mental health, Ive had social services on my back several times thanks to our diabetic nurse putting in a referral each time my daughter has been admitted, citing neglect from me , each time social services find no case after going round and speaking to each of my other kids in school time.
Our nurse will no longer deal with me, only my daughter in school time as i refuse to put my eldest on a pedastal and devote all my time and attention to her. My autistic daughter is also aggressive and will attack my son, only my son. When i was told that even if my autistic daughter was attacking my son, i had to leave them be and deal with my daughter, i cant do that!! my son has gone to school covered in scratches, bite marks, wounds where shes thrown things at him.. i cant do anything right in the TAC teams eyes. Ive been told i have to send her to school evne if she is ill for them to decide if she can work or not. Her attendance at school is 74%. I have the education welfare officer breathing down my neck, im worn down with constantly having to defend my actions, my decisions on what i do with each one of my kids. If vicky has sickness and the runs, i still have to send her to school so she can work in isolation, if i do not i get an ediucation officer on my doorstep asking why she isnt at school. im worn out from all this battling to keep my family together, keeping my daughter well when she will not do as she is supposed to yet she knows everything she is supposed to do. Our team will not put her on a pump yet im told she is a prime candate for it by one doctor during one admission.
She is a bright smart girl, but nothing i say gets through to her, ive been threatened with her being taken off me if i dont get her numbers sorted out. How please?? how can i do that when she can refuse and i can then do nothing?? Her team class her as unstable, both in managing her diabeties and mentally because she knows what she should do but does not.
I am tired, feel like my family is falling apart as when my daughter goes HI, she is awfull, her mouth is foul, the things she says hurts like telling my autistic daughter she was a freak, shouldnt of been born, should of been aborted.. telling my youngest she wished my youngest was dead.. telling me she wished i was dead, wasnt her mum...
ack, ive rambled.im ever so sorry. Just got the call, ive to take her in.
Thanks for reading this.
One worn out Maz.
Im a single parent with 4 kids. One a 15 yr old female diabetic type 1, one other, an 11 yr old autistic girl with the mind of a toddler and in nappies 24/7 due to a mega colon, another a 13 yr old grunting lad and the last a 9 yr old going on 26.
My eldest daughter, Vicky.. was diagnosed when she was 11, it will be 4 years tomorrow from when she was first diagnosed and ended up in hospital for a week. Ever since, she has been unstable, can be non compliant, will refuse to take insulin, will refuse to do checks and not let me do it, her last background check was 11, She has nearly died twice through DKA, been admitted to hospital several times for it.. she has been admitted before for non compliance, been admitted because her numbers were out of control for some reason even when ive taken over doing her checks and administering insulin. She is on novarapid and levamir. She has in total 45 units of slow acting a day split into two doses. She was last admitted on christmas day and its looking like she will be in again today. Waiting to her from the registrar at the hospital. Blood sugars 8.8, ketones 4.6.
Please excuse my babbling, waffling, probably horrendous spelling mistakes but its all coming out now.
My daughter is in the TAC system which i hate as each time i go to a meeting im told im neglecting my daughters physical, emotional and mental health, Ive had social services on my back several times thanks to our diabetic nurse putting in a referral each time my daughter has been admitted, citing neglect from me , each time social services find no case after going round and speaking to each of my other kids in school time.
Our nurse will no longer deal with me, only my daughter in school time as i refuse to put my eldest on a pedastal and devote all my time and attention to her. My autistic daughter is also aggressive and will attack my son, only my son. When i was told that even if my autistic daughter was attacking my son, i had to leave them be and deal with my daughter, i cant do that!! my son has gone to school covered in scratches, bite marks, wounds where shes thrown things at him.. i cant do anything right in the TAC teams eyes. Ive been told i have to send her to school evne if she is ill for them to decide if she can work or not. Her attendance at school is 74%. I have the education welfare officer breathing down my neck, im worn down with constantly having to defend my actions, my decisions on what i do with each one of my kids. If vicky has sickness and the runs, i still have to send her to school so she can work in isolation, if i do not i get an ediucation officer on my doorstep asking why she isnt at school. im worn out from all this battling to keep my family together, keeping my daughter well when she will not do as she is supposed to yet she knows everything she is supposed to do. Our team will not put her on a pump yet im told she is a prime candate for it by one doctor during one admission.
She is a bright smart girl, but nothing i say gets through to her, ive been threatened with her being taken off me if i dont get her numbers sorted out. How please?? how can i do that when she can refuse and i can then do nothing?? Her team class her as unstable, both in managing her diabeties and mentally because she knows what she should do but does not.
I am tired, feel like my family is falling apart as when my daughter goes HI, she is awfull, her mouth is foul, the things she says hurts like telling my autistic daughter she was a freak, shouldnt of been born, should of been aborted.. telling my youngest she wished my youngest was dead.. telling me she wished i was dead, wasnt her mum...
ack, ive rambled.im ever so sorry. Just got the call, ive to take her in.
Thanks for reading this.
One worn out Maz.