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I'm not sure how far my depressive state relates to my diabetes, but something diabetes-related has tipped me over the edge tonight, and I actually don't know what to do or say anymore...
My friend is getting married in December, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. All is fine and dandy. Last week, she sent details of her hen weekend...a weekend in Bath, one day of which is dedicated to chocolate making and tasting. Obviously, having diabetes, this is my worst nightmare. I loved chocolate before I had diabetes.
I said that I would just do a bit of sightseeing while they were doing the chocolate making, and would enjoy the rest of the weekend doing whatever with them...her reply was "can't you have some chocolate and inject a little more insulin". My grandad killed himself a year ago, as a result of abusing his body, I'm not going to kill myself.
As a result of me standing up for myself, my 'friend' is now implying she doesn't want me to be a bridesmaid.
I don't expect people who don't have diabetes to fully understand the ins and outs of the disease, but I do expect 'friends' to show a little compassion for those who can't eat what they want, have to inject themselves every time they eat, and just have to care for their bodies.
I do understand that I could join in with the chocolate day, but I'm REALLY struggling with my everyday diabetes, without having to think about being naughty, and I shouldn't have to do something that's only going to make me feel more down about my diabetes. It's not as if I've said I can't go at all :'(
Diabetes type 1.5
Diagnosed September 2011
Currently on basal insulin
My friend is getting married in December, and she asked me to be a bridesmaid. All is fine and dandy. Last week, she sent details of her hen weekend...a weekend in Bath, one day of which is dedicated to chocolate making and tasting. Obviously, having diabetes, this is my worst nightmare. I loved chocolate before I had diabetes.
I said that I would just do a bit of sightseeing while they were doing the chocolate making, and would enjoy the rest of the weekend doing whatever with them...her reply was "can't you have some chocolate and inject a little more insulin". My grandad killed himself a year ago, as a result of abusing his body, I'm not going to kill myself.
As a result of me standing up for myself, my 'friend' is now implying she doesn't want me to be a bridesmaid.
I don't expect people who don't have diabetes to fully understand the ins and outs of the disease, but I do expect 'friends' to show a little compassion for those who can't eat what they want, have to inject themselves every time they eat, and just have to care for their bodies.
I do understand that I could join in with the chocolate day, but I'm REALLY struggling with my everyday diabetes, without having to think about being naughty, and I shouldn't have to do something that's only going to make me feel more down about my diabetes. It's not as if I've said I can't go at all :'(
Diabetes type 1.5
Diagnosed September 2011
Currently on basal insulin