Hi steve
sorry about what has happened to you!
I have had something nearly the same, i have a live in carer and my fiancee comes to visit!
They knew about my fiancee as he is not my husband this does not count!
I recived a letter stating that it had come to their notice that i had someone living with me that i have not declared!
I sent them aletter stating that i ahve a live in carer, as i am losing my eyesight now! And i cannot be left alone for any time period! as being colour blind i pick up the wrong pills and take them, have done that many times!
I had to explain all my medical problems to a board of peple that do not know me, i felt so ashmed only being nearly 34 and admitting that you need a carer!
I fully understand how you must of felt! It left me with a awful taste in my mouth, i think that i know who it was that did it to me!
I can not hold it against anyone, as it is not anyones fault! I know that i got really stressed out by it all!
I hope that you are feeling a little better now! And well done for getting a little voluntry job! i wish i could, i think i could cause absolute panic, i would get everything wrong that i was doing!