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Can you help me? Somebody please...

Discussion in 'Greetings and Introductions' started by southamptonsteve1959, Feb 22, 2020.

  1. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Hi I'm a newbie here and can't find any local groups to me in the area of Milford on sea, New Milton and Lymington.
    I'm having a hard time with this and would like to meet up with somebody over a coffee and chat, if you are new to this or established with T2 then I'll buy the coffee, I have a car so getting about is not an issue.
    I'm Steve, 61, working full time. No pets. Live alone.Worried. Feel lonely.
    I've survived cancer of the throat and now have this to deal with, I live alone and have awful thoughts and feelings of how this is going to pan out. I've lost 10kgs in 4 weeks, not sure I'm eating the right / wrong stuff.
    It all feels like a death sentence. Can you help? I'm free most weekends and evenings
     
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  2. Rachox

    Rachox Type 2 (in remission!) · Moderator
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    Hi Southamptonsteve and welcome to the forum!
    Here is a link to the info we like to provide for newbies:
    https://www.diabetes.co.uk/forum/threads/basic-information-for-newly-diagnosed-diabetics.17088/
    Have a read and come back with any questions you have, you have come to the right place for support and information and the making of virtual friends at least! Can you tell us a little about how you have changed your diet and what meds you’re on if you’re comfortable to do so.
    Give my love to the south coast and the New Forest, I was brought up there :)
     
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  3. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thanks for your reply. Basically I've stopped all things sugar. No more take aways. No booze. No white bread. No pasta. I now walk 30mins everyday and swim every other day- I'm lucky here as I have a holiday home on a park with hot tub and pool etc.
    I'm on metformin x 4 a day. Blood fasting is ave. 5.5. Post meals around 8.5 to 11.5 depending on food. Much better than initially around the 17.2 mark at fasting.
     
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  4. VashtiB

    VashtiB Type 2 · Moderator
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    Hello and welcome,

    I can totally sympathise- I too had a hard time with the diagnosis. However, it doesn't have to be a death sentence. I'm in Australia so too far to meet up- but to be honest most of my support has been from this site.

    I suggest reading the link posted by @Rachox as it contains useful information and then read around d the site for a while. I suggest in particular reading the success stories and that will let you read about people who have successful turned their life around- it is very inspirational. Keep posting, asking questions, asking about food, seeking support- whatever you need. This place is awesome and the people here have lived experience and are very generous with their time.

    you seriously are not alone- we are all here are different stages with different experiences but with one thing in common.

    good luck and welcome.
     
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  5. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you Vashti, I will look at everything as I'm keen to learn. It really is a life changing process, I realise I'll need to adjust to it.
     
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  6. Daibell

    Daibell LADA · Master

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    Hi. Don't panic as it can be managed. You've already started doing the right thing by reducing your carbs. BTW you can still have some alcohol in sensible quantity such as wine and spirits so it's not all bad news. Do you think the weight loss is due to the improved diet and exercise? If so that's good and will stabilise. There is a small possibility of being T1 and not T2 and one symptom is unplanned weight loss but if your blood sugar doesn't rapidly rise then T2 is probably correct. Basically just keep doing what you are doing, keep testing and see the GP/DN when your review is due or if your are worried.
     
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  7. urbanracer

    urbanracer Type 1 · Expert
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    There are support groups either side of you in Southampton and Weymouth. Are these places too far away for you to travel to?
     
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  8. Resurgam

    Resurgam Type 2 (in remission!) · Expert

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    Ah - I used to go sailing on a yacht based in Lymington.
    Has your GP or nurse not explained that type two is an inability to deal with carbohydrates, which are the starches and the sugars? They seem to leave a lot of people in the same state and seeing high blood glucose levels whilst taking tablets.
    I started off at 17.1 mmol/l but I was eating loads of 'healthy' carbs on a cholesterol lowering diet my GP insisted on to save my life.
    Luckily for years I did Atkins and just went back to that, used the diet sheets to light the barbecue.
    No more problems.
    It was as simple as that.
    I find it no hardship eating a low carb diet, in fact I much prefer it, and I get normal blood glucose levels.
     
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  9. Jim Lahey

    Jim Lahey I reversed my Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    @southamptonsteve1959. Relax. Lean into it. You are among kindred spirits, and what you can't learn about diabetes here probably isn't worth knowing. Chances are you'll look back in a year or two and wonder what the fuss was all about.

    Speaking only for myself, I now regard being diagnosed type 2 as the best thing that ever happened to me. It's completely changed my life for the better. I now enjoy a bounty of delicious food that was previously [allegedly] off limits, and I've never been happier or healthier.

    Welcome.
     
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    shelley262 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    We’re all here and sending virtual hugs.
    Sounds like you’re making great progress both with dietary changes plus testing your bloods and learning what food works best for you as an individual. Well done you on the steps you’re taking all in the right direction including swimming and walking all great stuff.
    I’d strongly suggest - if you haven’t already - that you take a look at
    Www.dietdoctor.com
    It’s got so much information,ideas and recipes including what low carb drinks you can have for treats.
    You will get there - it is possible, as you’ve seen, to improve things by the way you eat it is depressing when you are diagnosed and the message you’re given re it will get worse but you can turn this round - as you are already - and that will impact on the way you see things too. Keep going you’re going in the right direction
     
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  11. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you. I may have a beer once a month on payday!
     
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  12. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thanks for this, yes I can get to those, just need to find where they are. Would be nice to find someone on here thats local. Cheers
     
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    Jaylee Type 1 · Moderator
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    Hi @southamptonsteve1959 ,

    Welcome to the forum.

    Sounds like your making moves in the right direction. Your in good hands on here.

    A little word about safety online. If you planning on meeting up with someone on the Internet? Always tell an adult where you are going, check in & give a time back.. :)
     
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    urbanracer Type 1 · Expert
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  15. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    That's interesting, thank you. I also take thyroxine, my thyroid was blasted with radiotherapy.
     
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    MeiChanski Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Hello Steve!

    Welcome! Sending you hugs but it seems you are making a comeback and we are rooting for you. Unfortunately I’m not from your area but I hope you find a local group to hang out with.
     
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  17. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you Jim. Yes I'm learning fast about 'alternative' foods, alternative that is to the junk food I've been living on for donkeys years. Just a real shame that most healthy and good foods can come with a higher price, I love nuts but they are so expensive for just a small packet
     
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  18. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you. What an amazing site this is, everyone helpful.
     
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  19. Jim Lahey

    Jim Lahey I reversed my Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Don't worry, you'll get your groove on soon enough. Everyone panics a little at first. It's to be expected when your're changing lifetime eating habits, but there's loads of options that won't break the bank, and more importantly, won't break your health :nurse:
     
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  20. southamptonsteve1959

    southamptonsteve1959 Type 2 · Active Member

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    Thank you Jaylee, very good point about any meet up. I hope I can keep it going in the right direction, I feel like I'm on a mission now, I'll not let it beat me once I've got my head around it.
     
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