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Feel ashamed

Discussion in 'Diabetes Discussions' started by Robbieswan, Oct 23, 2017.

  1. Brunneria

    Brunneria Other · Moderator
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    Hi @Robbieswan

    Remember yesterday when you felt really weird-angry, and you punched that wall?
    - that was the emotional whirlwind that can strike with a hypo.

    Now you are experiencing a kind of black depression, a hopelessness that just weighs you down, aren't you?
    - well, guess what? That is part of the 'after hypo'. It is a result of the high/low blood glucose, the emotional rollercoaster, the stress, the fear, the adrenalin and the feeling out of control.

    The thing to remember - and you need to keep repeating this to yourself! - this too shall pass

    Because it will. Promise.
    Tomorrow or the next day you will wake up feeling lighter, and this miserable misery will have lifted.
     
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  2. Robbieswan

    Robbieswan Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    I really and sincerely hope you are right. I really do.
     
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  3. Robbieswan

    Robbieswan Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Thank you so very much
     
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  4. serenity648

    serenity648 · Guest

    oh yes, my type 1 friend gets the downs after a hypo. Its a thing. Just part of the fun of diabetes. This too shall pass : )

    and well done to your daughter too
     
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  5. JTL

    JTL Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Punching walls is similar to stamping your feet.
    The difference is punching walls can lead to costs for the NHS where stamping your feet just makes you look foolish but costs nothing.
    I wouldn't want to be stuck in a lift with you.
     
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  6. Robbieswan

    Robbieswan Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    Your comment made me laugh. Thank you for that.
     
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  7. Rachox

    Rachox Type 2 (in remission!) · Moderator
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    Five months ago when I was diagnosed, I was asking many questions here, now not so much. I find myself on the other side, answering questions instead. I learnt so much here and have been showered with support. In the not too distant future, you’ll be in control @Robbieswan and you’ll be helping others. I know it doesn’t seem like it now but just you wait, you’ll get to grips with this. Oh and thank goodness for our NHS, there when we need it, no judgements made, it may have problems but we are so lucky to have it, you are most definitely not a drain on it x
     
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  8. therower

    therower Type 1 · Well-Known Member

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    You believed in us last week. Trust us now.
     
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  9. Guzzler

    Guzzler Type 2 · Master

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    Many years ago I was given, perhaps, the best piece of advice ever. I was in a similar frame of mind as you have now, recently diagnosed with a chronic condition and trying to beat it into submission. I had a complete meltdown, turned my face to the wall and refused to beleive that this was now my life.
    A stranger told me 'Don't try to fight this because you won't win, instead work with it and know about it'.

    I remembered that when I had a wobble after the diagnosis with T2. I had one day when this overwhelming thought that someone had dropped the ball and I had been misdiagnosed meant I wasn't T2 at all and I could eat anything I chose. It didn't last long, well, long enough to splurge then feel a bit ashamed for doing so but it was a part of the process of acceptance. This is all totally normal and is a process we go through. Doesn't mean we won't have hills to climb in the future but at least we're wearing the right boots.
     
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  10. hankjam

    hankjam Type 2 (in remission!) · Well-Known Member

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    It really does take some getting used to and then controlling.... and you can. Wife and daughter, so that makes three good reasons for giving it a go.
    Just posting here, like things you've probably never thought about sharing before, is a great thing.
    It's not just you, we all have it in one form or other, and you're not alone, we're here all the time.
    Take care
     
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  11. Barrowbakers

    Barrowbakers Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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  12. JTL

    JTL Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Having that sense of humour will get you through all sorts mate.
    You'll make it.
     
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  13. JTL

    JTL Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    It's your NHS.
    It's mine too.
    We built it we run it.
    It doesn't belong to the government and never has.
    When they start selling off chunks of it to Branson and the likes I'm of the opinion Branson should be done for knowingly receiving stolen goods.
    If you feel bad about using it you might as well feel bad about using your front door the telly the kitchen sink your trousers.
     
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  14. leahkian

    leahkian · Well-Known Member

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    We all hate diabetes if we are honest but we do not get a choice of having it or not. I had a kidney and pancreas in April 2015 and even though the transplant went well, it highlighted the problems that the diabetes has caused. I got diabetes in 1979 aged 3 so i grew up with it and even now after the transplant i know that one day it will return its like been in remission if you had cancer. I would not like to count the times i have cried and wanted to give up, with has left me under the mental health team but you take everyday at a time and think i am not going to let this beat me. There is times you feel great and some days you do not give a dam but we are only humans with feelings. Everyone on this site will try to help you but that is if you want our help, getting angry was one of my signs of a hypo. Just think of diabetes as a marathon and not a sprint, you also need to give yourself a break you cannot do everything in one day. The NHS is there for us and we should be thankful for that and never think that you are a drain on the NHS because i know if we had a choice none of us would want to be a diabetic. You should have seen some of the looks i have had over the years including a nightclub calling the police as they thought i was a drug dealer!! The police came and started laughing at the doormen who went quite red. I have also been asked in my youth off a girl if she would catch diabetes if i kissed her i said no but i will turn into a frog.The best advice i can give you is look at your wife and daughter and think what would their lives be like without a husband and a dad. Fight it and if you have a bad day there is always tomorrow and you will fight it
     
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  15. DCUKMod

    DCUKMod I reversed my Type 2 · Expert
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    @Robbieswan - I think we all go through phases of using and not using the NHS through our lives.

    In the last 2 years, I have had more appointments with my GP and various specialists, trying to get to the bottom of something that just isn't right for me. (I'll spare you the details)

    On one of my appointment with my GP, I remarked I felt like I was never away form the surgery or off the phone and that I was surely keeping the phlebotomist in work over recent months.

    Her response was, well, this has to be sorted, and, at least we've got to know each other better, as she went about making another referral to a new discipline.

    You're just in a phase where you need the NHS, so celebrate that we have it, and how accessible it is.

    Oh, and have another look at the 5 Stages of Grief.

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    Tomorrow's a new day, and for sure it'll be a school day.
     

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  16. Resurgam

    Resurgam Type 2 (in remission!) · Expert

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    I count myself lucky that if I eat low carb foods I do not require medication to keep my numbers normal. Perhaps you will be lucky too - there have been reports of people no longer needing insulin, or their need for it dropping to very low levels, like only requiring the background sort, not the fast acting for meals sort. This is not encouraging you to stop taking your medication - just that you might - being a type two, not need to take insulin for ever. First you need to get over whatever it was that got you the ride in the ambulance - it sounds like a right nasty do and not something to be dismissive off. At least you have now got some time to get to be less interesting to the health service.
    If you get to be so uninteresting as I am, your doctor might lose all interest and not even want to see you - so just go careful for a bit and see how things are changing for you. Eating low carb can be a powerful tool to push your metabolism back towards the normal, but you are on glucose lowering medication, you need to go steady now.
     
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    My wife, my kids, and the Inland Revenue need me to remain in the land of the living. Without my pension coming in then they would be in dire straits indeed. I enjoy the challenge my condition presents me with, since I feel it is in my power to control it, unlike my wife's condition which is definitely progressive, So I totally agree with the poster I am replying to.
     
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  18. Gannet

    Gannet Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Is your hand OK?
     
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  19. JTL

    JTL Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    The drug companies and their shareholders don't like people like me and you.
     
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  20. Kentoldlady1

    Kentoldlady1 Type 2 · Well-Known Member

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    Hi robbie, just read about your nasty couple of days. Hope you are feeling a bit better.

    I can only agree with all the others on here and say that there is no need for shame. Do you think I should feel ashamed? Or any others who post on here? If you dont think I should be ashamed of myself (quite right), why should you feel ashamed of yourself?

    I dont think that any of us have any reason for shame. We are all human. It is very early days, learn all you can. This has been a huge learning experience and you will get much better at reading the hypo signs. Hope the hand is ok!
     
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