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maximus

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Hello. I am new to this forum and would like to introduce myself. I am semi retired (medical grounds), aged 59 and now my lovely wife has "progressed" from diet controlled to insulin controlled. She was only diagnosed with type 2 about 18 months ago. She never stops helping others and being there for them, esp our children and grandchildren. Now I would like to help her all I can. Especially as I now have time on my hands. However, I don't know how I can help. I am not talking about housework, shopping etc etc. I mean helping her when common difficulties associated with her diabetes occur. Any advice would be more than welcome.
One other question: Would the "progression" to insulin control mean her car insurance is more expensive? No problem if it will be but we'd like to be prepared.
Many thanks in anticipation for your help and advice.
PS, sorry to join and ask for help straight away
 
Hi Maximus, and welcome!

This forum is here to help, so don't worry - we all ask questions all the time. One of the monitors or another experienced person will be along soon to pass on the basic info for new members, and to answer your car insurance question. Meanwhile, I think a good way for you to help your wife would be to learn as much as you can so that you can have an informed discussion with her when she wants one, and understand her problems when she gets a bit 'down'.

How lucky she is to have such a supportive husband!

Best wishes to both of you!

Viv 8)
 
Hi Maximus and welcome to the Forum. The subject of car insurance rates for diabetics has come up recently in various threads but I think some members will come along soon and answer your question with information specifically for your situation. Viv is right that you knowing the basics of diabetes will help your wife considerably so I am attaching some information written by the Forum Monitors so that you know more about it.

 
Wow! I've a lot to learn but she's worth it! Thank you so much for your quick replies. (And a great forum).
 
Anyone who starts on insulin needs to inform DVLA, who will make enquiries, then issue a 1, 2 or usually, 3 year licence, free of charge. Initial & subsequent reports / examination are free to driver. Most insurers just want to know that you've informed DVLA.
 
Hi there and welcome!

Having someone to share the effort of understanding about diabetes, learn with you, and care what happens, is hugely valuable.
As Viv said, support when you're down is another very helpful thing. Sometimes you just have days where you just think 'I wish I could have a holiday from this'. There's nothing spouses/partners can do about it apart from just give a hug and say 'I know'. But that is also hugely valuable.

It sounds like you are the kind of person who would do this naturally so as others have said - you have a lucky wife!
 
Hi Maximus

Driving was something I was worried about. I started on insulin in December 2010. I told the DVLA, who have now given me a three year licence. I had to fill in a fairly simple form, which you can download from the DVLA website. They then wrote back and said I could have a three year licence and asked me to surrender my old one via post. Initial response took a few weeks, but the licence was returned in about a fortnight I think. My insurer (Mini) just noted the info and did not change my premiums. My view on renewal will be that if I did not need an additional premium when I told them, I shouldn't require one now. They can't charge you more for being diabetic, that's discrimination, but they can charge more if you present a higher risk, which should only be if your wife has lots of disabling hypos etc. If she is having lots of severe hypos then she really shouldn't be driving so it's a fairly moot point. Having said that, other people have noticed the premiums going up uncessarily, so advice has been to shop around if they do bump the premium up. Other people may have a view on this of course.

Standard advice is also test before driving anywhere and don't drive under 5.5; have a small snack if that's the case. Always pull over and test if you feel ill / hypo and keep glucose tabs and a carby snack in the car - I keep a couple of cereal bars and some dextrose tablets. My advice - don't get the orange flavour ones, they're disgusting.
 
Yes, I do care a lot about my wife. She's looked after me through many illnesses and bad times. It's sort of nice to be able to return the love and care. My wife doesn't have/hasn't had any hypos. Her reading this morning was 22! (should be between 4 and 7 I think I remember). She is very sensible about her driving and will not even drive if she's a little tired. Her weight LOSS was dramatic, almost 4 stone in a year! She now weighs just over 8 stone! She is being monitored but they reckon it's because she is passing out sugar before it's absorbed. Or something like that. She is one of lifes unsung heroes and is always looking after others. Maybe now she'll get her rewards!
Thanks a lot for the above, we'll stert working on the DVLA stuff as soon as I get her permission. (Guess who wears the trousers in our house!!).
 
Good man! Th ebest thing you can really do is read as much information as you can on this very site. There is a wealth of information here - and if you have time on your hands to do the research, and teach your Mrs. about it then it would be a good use of your free time.

Welcome aboard!
 
What a nice Man you are I wish my hub would be a bit more understanding..He just hopes it will go away..sigh..He is a good man , but I think any illness scares him I am the " strong" one in this marriage and also like your Mrs, I am the one who is EVERYONES support system..been doing it so long now.
Funny :? Nobody ever says " How are YOU"
 
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