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I’m John partner of Sally Mercer

Jscotti73

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Type of diabetes
Type 1
Treatment type
Insulin
Sally is writing this, John could do with a community support about his condition. Type 1 is difficult to deal with when it was diagnosed overnight. It’s difficult to deal with full stop. I’m signing over to him now. Thank you all x
 
Sally is writing this, John could do with a community support about his condition. Type 1 is difficult to deal with when it was diagnosed overnight. It’s difficult to deal with full stop. I’m signing over to him now. Thank you all x
And a big welcome to you @Jscotti73 . It’s great you are here. Please feel free to ask questions, no matter how small. I am sure our members will only be too happy to share their experiences with you. There are many sub forums covering diabetes types, challenges and related questions so feel free to peruse the site.
 
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Welcome , I will say that whatever you are going through there will be people here who’ve been through the same or something very similar , and will be free to share experiences and advice . Also remember there is no-such thing as a stupid question. You’ve definitely come to the right place
 
Welcome @Jscotti73 . There are two types of newly diagnosed diabetics.. some are shocked, confused and a little angry.. and the others lie.

Give yourself a bit of space.. it is tough, but there is a great deal of experience here to tap into .. I hope you find something that works for you.
 
Welcome. It takes time to adapt to diabetes of any type. Optimism and self-forgiveness for all the mistakes made along the way helps. Even after years I am still learning about my diabetes every day. No two days are the same and no two diabetics are the same. You have to find your own path. This forum has taught me far more than my doctors have. Even if you don't post often, hearing about what others in your same condition are going through is supportive.
 
Hi all I’m John as you know sally mercer my partner has been on here discussing my symptoms ie being aggressive need some help please……
Welcome John,
This forum makes it all much easier to deal with.
Some great people on here.
 
One more thing I’ve only been diagnose with type 1 for 3 years now. I’m 51
Hi John, welcome to the support network.

Three years of having Type 1 is not very long, but I guess it feels like an age when you are trying to get into grips with fluctuating blood glucose.
As far as you losing your temper at times, it is hard, but I firmly believe that it is to do with you feeling so grotty because of this illness. I think that most Type 1 can understand that. Life will get better.

I hope that yuo have a good hospital team, with an endocrinologist, diabetes specialist nurse, and a dietician. I am lucky with my team, as I can either email or telephone them when I have questions. I hope that your team have thought you carbohydrate counting, and different carbohydrate/insulin ratios according to the time of the day.
Just a warning though, any virus and inflammation can change the amount of insulin you need.

I believe that you will find the forum useful. Occasionally it may take time before people respond to your messages. because members have their life to deal with, especially on the weekends. It does not mean that we are ignoring you, or your needs.
 
One more thing I’ve only been diagnose with type 1 for 3 years now. I’m 51
Tell us a bit about yourself, @Jscotti73 , so that our members are able to advise based on their own similar circumstances. As I have type 2 , not on insulin, I don’t have relevant info, but would like to welcome you.

Some info that could help our T1 members understand, would be.
Do you have a supportive medical team?
How are you monitoring your blood glucose levels?
what is your insulin regime?
Do you have awareness of hypos?
Can you explain what happens when you are behaving aggressively?
What is your diet like?

There will most likey be more questions from our friendly T1 members. Be assured , the info you provide can really be useful in enabling understanding of what is going on, and target specific advice.
 
Hi all I’m John as you know sally mercer my partner has been on here discussing my symptoms ie being aggressive need some help please……
Hi,

Welcome to the forum.

Looks like your first big step with opening up.
If you are unfamiliar with using forums? That is OK too.
Just take your time…
 
...... symptoms ie being aggressive need some help please……
One source of help would be your hospital diabetes team. But you keeping a notebook of your feelings and behaviour would also be beneficial. If you are wearing either a Libre or Dexcom sensor, with readings going to your hospital diabetes team, then the team will be able to adjust your insulin requirements. If you are not, then please keep a record of your blood glucose readings. It is important to know how either low or high readings affect your mood.
Your hospital diabetes team will be able to refer you to get help with aggression.
If we are talking about extreme bad temper, then it would be "talking therapies".
If being aggressive turns, or has been, physical then ask for urgent help.
 
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One more thing I’ve only been diagnose with type 1 for 3 years now. I’m 51
Hi John I also got diagnosed just over 3 years ago, it's not easy like it looks I hope that you joining here can help there's always someone who understands or helpful
 
Hi @Jscotti73,

Welcome to the forum - I get your experience of being aggressive when low (and grumpy as <expletive> when high) - type 1 does horrible stuff to the brain when your BG is off.

After 51 years I've had to deal with all sorts of complications trying to live with it - one of the best things I do is tell my wife if I'm high or low to help her deal with my reactions better, and when I know I'm getting angry at silly stuff that normally wouldn't bother me, check my BG, eat and either get out the way of my loved ones (for a bit) or focus on something and try not to react in any way till I'm back in range.

Not easy and not 100% but reduces the occurrence of anger (and snappiness) and lessens it massively - I learned to deal with it in my own way and don't have the problems I used to.

The other thing that helps is using the tech (CGMs) to warn me I'm going low - my watch/phone buzzes and tells me before it hits (so I can do soemthing about it).

You'll find your own way - catching the feeling before it builds (and eating) is the bast way to stop it happening and affecting the ones you love.
 
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