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Hi everyone,
I think I should have joined this forum much earlier. I'm an only child and have often lived only with my mother, who is diabetic (type 1). Ever since I was eight, I take care of her and ensure she is okay. Circumstances have forced us to live apart in the last nine years but despite that I have been creative in making sure she is okay. She has always had a lot of staff (at home) who can also help in case of an emergency. Other than that I use our smartphones to ensure she is conscious and that her blood sugar levels are okay (i.e. I text regularly, when she is silent over a certain period of time I raise the alarm and send people to her home, I have a GPS tracker on her phone to see if, in case she does not respond to messages, she may be out of her home, distracted in an errand or something). Despite all of these methods, recently I failed to save her and she ended up in a hypoglycemic coma in her car. People found her and everything was okay in the end, but I am still traumatized by this incident, and many more incidents. I do not know what to do. I have been dealing with this for over 20 years and I don't know how much longer I can handle this. I always feel that she is being irresponsible and not taking care of herself, but not being diabetic myself I really do not know how true that is. I love her so much and worry about her so much but my own health and psychological well-being is really affected by all this.
To exacerbate the situation, in the past three years I have been working in the humanitarian field which is arguably the most stressful field to work in. This, along with my mother's health, is really affecting me. I am often sick and can feel my morale plummeting. My work situation is not good and my financial situation is okay at the moment but if my husband and I choose to start a family, there is no way our finances can handle it. The only option I have to progress in my work is to go on the field. Unfortunately this could mean places that are so far from my mother that even the time difference wouldn't allow us to speak. Not to mention being in a different country (or even city) makes me extremely nervous as I do not know if she will be okay and I only trust myself in ensuring she is fine and healthy.
I tell her to consider having a housekeeper, to assist her in taking care of her home and alert me (or a medical professional) in any medical emergency but she refuses. I just do not know what to do. Can anyone offer me any kind of advice? I hope nobody misunderstands me - before you jump to conclusions about me know that ever since I was eight I have been dealing with this completely by myself. No siblings, no father, no family to help. So be kind in your advice
I think I should have joined this forum much earlier. I'm an only child and have often lived only with my mother, who is diabetic (type 1). Ever since I was eight, I take care of her and ensure she is okay. Circumstances have forced us to live apart in the last nine years but despite that I have been creative in making sure she is okay. She has always had a lot of staff (at home) who can also help in case of an emergency. Other than that I use our smartphones to ensure she is conscious and that her blood sugar levels are okay (i.e. I text regularly, when she is silent over a certain period of time I raise the alarm and send people to her home, I have a GPS tracker on her phone to see if, in case she does not respond to messages, she may be out of her home, distracted in an errand or something). Despite all of these methods, recently I failed to save her and she ended up in a hypoglycemic coma in her car. People found her and everything was okay in the end, but I am still traumatized by this incident, and many more incidents. I do not know what to do. I have been dealing with this for over 20 years and I don't know how much longer I can handle this. I always feel that she is being irresponsible and not taking care of herself, but not being diabetic myself I really do not know how true that is. I love her so much and worry about her so much but my own health and psychological well-being is really affected by all this.
To exacerbate the situation, in the past three years I have been working in the humanitarian field which is arguably the most stressful field to work in. This, along with my mother's health, is really affecting me. I am often sick and can feel my morale plummeting. My work situation is not good and my financial situation is okay at the moment but if my husband and I choose to start a family, there is no way our finances can handle it. The only option I have to progress in my work is to go on the field. Unfortunately this could mean places that are so far from my mother that even the time difference wouldn't allow us to speak. Not to mention being in a different country (or even city) makes me extremely nervous as I do not know if she will be okay and I only trust myself in ensuring she is fine and healthy.
I tell her to consider having a housekeeper, to assist her in taking care of her home and alert me (or a medical professional) in any medical emergency but she refuses. I just do not know what to do. Can anyone offer me any kind of advice? I hope nobody misunderstands me - before you jump to conclusions about me know that ever since I was eight I have been dealing with this completely by myself. No siblings, no father, no family to help. So be kind in your advice