First of all Hello all, I really appreciate any and all help no matter how mundane it may be!
My names Rob
Im 34 and last week I was diagnosed with type 2, this is down to lifestyle and weight. Im working on it.
Im a single dad who loves his son more than anything else in my life and I have a bond with him and he loves being with me.
I split from my child's mum when he was 12 months old. Im settled down with a loving caring partner and I have a really good relationship with my boy, he stays with me twice a week. Communication with his mum is shall we say "hard work" and she goes out of her way to use my son as a weapon against me to maintain control.
About 7 weeks ago things with my son who is 3 were not right.. He was tired and ill. his mum kept saying he was fine all the time but he wasn't I kept pushing for medical attention and in the end took him the walk in three weekends on the row. He had chicken pox, scarlet fever and then a throat/chest infection all without a break in between.
He ended up in hospital and he has been diagnosed with type 1, both his mum and me are devastated but I have come to terms with it now as it doesn't matter he is still my son.
My problem is this-
The doctors, nurses, community support team have basically ignored me. I've been there 12 hours a day every day for a week but have to every single day explain that its awkward being in his mums presence and that she with-holds information from me. blood sugar levels how he is etc, Its a form of control. I end up on hold to the ward worrying and then they wont discuss with me over the phone.
Ive explained to the nurses and doctors over and over and still they automatically address her and discuss things with her leaving me frustrated and feeling like im not important in my sons life. The worst thing is the community nurses will only goto her house to support her with injections and bs levels etc as i live outside of the hospital catchment area. They will not come to my house even though he stays with me twice a week??
Its basically giving my ex partner a excuse not to let me see him. I care for my son to my own determent and I dont know who to turn too to get the support I need to care for my son? I'm willing to attend classes even go to her house to be there when they inject etc. But she wont let me govto her house and im afraid im going to lose the time I have with my son.
Ive taken the opportunity to inject him while he is in hospital to gain experience but got less than welcoming response when I asked for the literature to be copied for me.
I am trying to come to terms with my type 2, Now my son has type 1 and its hard being a single dad as im automatically judged as being the one who left the family home when I have given my all to be a dad because im not the live in parent.
Any comments or advice is greatly appreciated! any other single parents been through anything similar?
My names Rob
Im 34 and last week I was diagnosed with type 2, this is down to lifestyle and weight. Im working on it.
Im a single dad who loves his son more than anything else in my life and I have a bond with him and he loves being with me.
I split from my child's mum when he was 12 months old. Im settled down with a loving caring partner and I have a really good relationship with my boy, he stays with me twice a week. Communication with his mum is shall we say "hard work" and she goes out of her way to use my son as a weapon against me to maintain control.
About 7 weeks ago things with my son who is 3 were not right.. He was tired and ill. his mum kept saying he was fine all the time but he wasn't I kept pushing for medical attention and in the end took him the walk in three weekends on the row. He had chicken pox, scarlet fever and then a throat/chest infection all without a break in between.
He ended up in hospital and he has been diagnosed with type 1, both his mum and me are devastated but I have come to terms with it now as it doesn't matter he is still my son.
My problem is this-
The doctors, nurses, community support team have basically ignored me. I've been there 12 hours a day every day for a week but have to every single day explain that its awkward being in his mums presence and that she with-holds information from me. blood sugar levels how he is etc, Its a form of control. I end up on hold to the ward worrying and then they wont discuss with me over the phone.
Ive explained to the nurses and doctors over and over and still they automatically address her and discuss things with her leaving me frustrated and feeling like im not important in my sons life. The worst thing is the community nurses will only goto her house to support her with injections and bs levels etc as i live outside of the hospital catchment area. They will not come to my house even though he stays with me twice a week??
Its basically giving my ex partner a excuse not to let me see him. I care for my son to my own determent and I dont know who to turn too to get the support I need to care for my son? I'm willing to attend classes even go to her house to be there when they inject etc. But she wont let me govto her house and im afraid im going to lose the time I have with my son.
Ive taken the opportunity to inject him while he is in hospital to gain experience but got less than welcoming response when I asked for the literature to be copied for me.
I am trying to come to terms with my type 2, Now my son has type 1 and its hard being a single dad as im automatically judged as being the one who left the family home when I have given my all to be a dad because im not the live in parent.
Any comments or advice is greatly appreciated! any other single parents been through anything similar?