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Hi there,
I have been type 1 diabetic for about 15 years and have been married to my husband for 2 years (we also dated for 6 years beforehand...). He is lovely - normally very thoughtful, supportive, and my best friend. Recently, though, I've realized my T1 might be wearing on him a bit... I have a pretty clear pattern of going low too many times in a day and he has expressed frustration and 'annoyance' with this. I think he knows I'm doing my best to adjust my insulin (sliding scale) properly according to meal/ exercise etc., but has a hard time understanding how I continue to overshoot insulin and go low. I recognize some of this is out of concern for my safety, but during a heated discussion tonight (after I dropped to 2.9 after dinner - yet was acting pretty normal) he said things like: "I am annoyed because I think it's irresponsible of you to go low so frequently," "I don't think most Type 1s go to 2.9, yet you seem to think it is o.k.," and "how do you even let yourself get so low without recognizing." I have also noticed that sometimes when I have been a little disoriented during a hypo he is a bit cool and stand off'ish (being the type of person that feels super vulnerable and anxious when I go low, this is not helpful at all).
I see that his comments seem relatively rational and fair but, I suppose, I was a little hurt by the frustrated tone. Also, he hasn't paused to think about my feelings - how frustrating it is for ME to work so hard to balance things, to go low so much, to constantly worry about blood sugar at work, to test a bajillion times a day b/c I am worried about a sudden drop, etc. [and yes, I told him all of this tonight during our discussion - I am not the type to not express myself].
***So I guess I am asking: have any of you had partners that had a difficult time with your diabetes? Has he/she ever showed 'annoyance' rather than concern/ care/ support with your diabetes management? Thanks for sharing any opinions/ experiences!!
I have been type 1 diabetic for about 15 years and have been married to my husband for 2 years (we also dated for 6 years beforehand...). He is lovely - normally very thoughtful, supportive, and my best friend. Recently, though, I've realized my T1 might be wearing on him a bit... I have a pretty clear pattern of going low too many times in a day and he has expressed frustration and 'annoyance' with this. I think he knows I'm doing my best to adjust my insulin (sliding scale) properly according to meal/ exercise etc., but has a hard time understanding how I continue to overshoot insulin and go low. I recognize some of this is out of concern for my safety, but during a heated discussion tonight (after I dropped to 2.9 after dinner - yet was acting pretty normal) he said things like: "I am annoyed because I think it's irresponsible of you to go low so frequently," "I don't think most Type 1s go to 2.9, yet you seem to think it is o.k.," and "how do you even let yourself get so low without recognizing." I have also noticed that sometimes when I have been a little disoriented during a hypo he is a bit cool and stand off'ish (being the type of person that feels super vulnerable and anxious when I go low, this is not helpful at all).
I see that his comments seem relatively rational and fair but, I suppose, I was a little hurt by the frustrated tone. Also, he hasn't paused to think about my feelings - how frustrating it is for ME to work so hard to balance things, to go low so much, to constantly worry about blood sugar at work, to test a bajillion times a day b/c I am worried about a sudden drop, etc. [and yes, I told him all of this tonight during our discussion - I am not the type to not express myself].
***So I guess I am asking: have any of you had partners that had a difficult time with your diabetes? Has he/she ever showed 'annoyance' rather than concern/ care/ support with your diabetes management? Thanks for sharing any opinions/ experiences!!