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Hi all.
I've not been on here for a while, but am reaching the end of my tether with my husband, and just need to let off steam I think!
He has been type 2 for 12 years,, since the age of 35. First 6 years or so were ok, and under control with minimal dose of Metformin and diet. He then fell off the wagon 6 years ago for about 6-12 months, (at the same time as his doc stopped issuing tester strips, and said Type 2s don't have to test.) He got a Hba1c result of 70 odd, which shocked him into doing the Newcastle diet, losing about 1.5 stone, (dropping to 12stone) and getting things back under control.
About 3 years ago he again starting to eat all the wrong things, got high Hba1c results, so the Dr upped his Metformin and added Glicizide as well. Also gave him back tester strips/lancets and said if testing helped, then to do it. He did start testing again, and the increase in meds helped for while, but over the last 18 months he has been acting like he is not a diabetic, and can eat what he wants. His Hba1c has ranged from a high of 100 20 months ago to 60 about 9 months ago, and having just got results back two weeks ago, its back at 100 again. His doctor takes the view that its your condition that you have to live with, so if you don't take his advice, then you have to deal with the consequences. I think at his last review, the doc did warn that not addressing the continually high readings will leading to neuropathy, heart problems, stroke etc. My husband is not stupid - he knows what he eats makes him feel ****. He is tired a lot of the time, grumpy, and says he feels achy. He hasn't done the finger test for months. We have a cupboard packed with unused tester strips and lancets, as he is still getting them each month on his prescription, so I presume his doctor thinks he is using them.
He is not massively over wieght (14stone at 5ft 9) but has put back 2 stone over the last 2 years or so because of all the **** he is eating. He told the doctor he will lose the weight, do tests, exercise and eat properly. We are two weeks in from that doctors appointment, and nothing has changed. I buy/ cook an evening meal that is healthy and low carb. He eats that, then searches the cupboards for anything sweet he can find; including taking any of the kids biscuits/ ice cream and the like. If there is nothing sweet for him to have, he will stop off at a supermarket on the way home from work and buy biscuits /cake etc. If he comes with me on the weekly shop, he will put sweet/high carb stuff in the trolley, saying it will be the last time he does it, and that the diet will start 'after the weekend'. Just the other day, he ate a whole funsize pack of fruitella sweets which he'd bought. God knows what his blood reading was like after that lot.
If I try and talk to him about it, he gets angry. I try not to nag, and take the line that I am worried about his future; about our future, but he just walks out of the room and says that he will sort it. Or goes to our bedroom and falls sleep for an hour.
He has all these plans for us to travel the world when we retire/ have paid off the mortgage etc, but at the rate he is going, I cannot see how on earth he will be healthy enough in 10-15 years time to do these things.
Sorry for the long rant - but I just have no idea how to move on from this situation.......
I've not been on here for a while, but am reaching the end of my tether with my husband, and just need to let off steam I think!
He has been type 2 for 12 years,, since the age of 35. First 6 years or so were ok, and under control with minimal dose of Metformin and diet. He then fell off the wagon 6 years ago for about 6-12 months, (at the same time as his doc stopped issuing tester strips, and said Type 2s don't have to test.) He got a Hba1c result of 70 odd, which shocked him into doing the Newcastle diet, losing about 1.5 stone, (dropping to 12stone) and getting things back under control.
About 3 years ago he again starting to eat all the wrong things, got high Hba1c results, so the Dr upped his Metformin and added Glicizide as well. Also gave him back tester strips/lancets and said if testing helped, then to do it. He did start testing again, and the increase in meds helped for while, but over the last 18 months he has been acting like he is not a diabetic, and can eat what he wants. His Hba1c has ranged from a high of 100 20 months ago to 60 about 9 months ago, and having just got results back two weeks ago, its back at 100 again. His doctor takes the view that its your condition that you have to live with, so if you don't take his advice, then you have to deal with the consequences. I think at his last review, the doc did warn that not addressing the continually high readings will leading to neuropathy, heart problems, stroke etc. My husband is not stupid - he knows what he eats makes him feel ****. He is tired a lot of the time, grumpy, and says he feels achy. He hasn't done the finger test for months. We have a cupboard packed with unused tester strips and lancets, as he is still getting them each month on his prescription, so I presume his doctor thinks he is using them.
He is not massively over wieght (14stone at 5ft 9) but has put back 2 stone over the last 2 years or so because of all the **** he is eating. He told the doctor he will lose the weight, do tests, exercise and eat properly. We are two weeks in from that doctors appointment, and nothing has changed. I buy/ cook an evening meal that is healthy and low carb. He eats that, then searches the cupboards for anything sweet he can find; including taking any of the kids biscuits/ ice cream and the like. If there is nothing sweet for him to have, he will stop off at a supermarket on the way home from work and buy biscuits /cake etc. If he comes with me on the weekly shop, he will put sweet/high carb stuff in the trolley, saying it will be the last time he does it, and that the diet will start 'after the weekend'. Just the other day, he ate a whole funsize pack of fruitella sweets which he'd bought. God knows what his blood reading was like after that lot.
If I try and talk to him about it, he gets angry. I try not to nag, and take the line that I am worried about his future; about our future, but he just walks out of the room and says that he will sort it. Or goes to our bedroom and falls sleep for an hour.
He has all these plans for us to travel the world when we retire/ have paid off the mortgage etc, but at the rate he is going, I cannot see how on earth he will be healthy enough in 10-15 years time to do these things.
Sorry for the long rant - but I just have no idea how to move on from this situation.......