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<blockquote data-quote="deannatrois" data-source="post: 932025" data-attributes="member: 204168"><p>I am sorry, I know this sounds like a made up sob story. Unfortunately it is real, and I expect I'm not the only one in this situation. I have got Shelter helping. Am already on the housing list but with priority Band D.., well don't hold your breath. Houses normally go to A, B and occasionally C bands. Once I go into emergency shared lettings housing (the one room scenaria) I will be C banding.., but will be bidding against others who've been C band for longer. We could be there quite a while. Housing say a year.</p><p></p><p>Housing just won't take into account stress factors when looking at banding..,only things directly related to where you are living. Apparently some boroughs do this, and I'm living in one of them. Nothing I can do. I've confirmed with Shelter that this is how it works and yes, there's nothing I can do to get us reprioritised. All I can do is hope to get us into a one bed flat (which still won't be ideal with two sons who stress and don't sleep well) rather than the one room arrangement with shared lettings (where both kids will have no hope of going to a quiet place and destressing). Its wrong.., but I just have to concentrate on what I can do. So wish there was some justice in this. But I can't afford to get worked up about it.</p><p></p><p>No I'm afraid there's no family or friends. All I do is care., I might have ASD myself (waiting for assessment).., as time has gone on, I've become more and more isolated. My own fault. Had a few knock backs and just sort of got used to being on my own. Can't explain it really. There's just something wrong with me, but I've accepted that and I'm happier on my own not wandering all the time what I've said that was inappropriate this time. I dread meeting people I'm afraid. I never know if I'm saying things the right way, or being inappropriate and its embarrassing. I always put people off. I don't mean to but i do. I prefer writing when communicating because of this cause I can look at what I've said and go back and change it if I think its a bit off. I dread phone conversations even. But the good thing about it is I can function.., and I can empathise with my sons, if that makes sense. I always did understand why there were difficulties for them and I've worked hard to help them develop and grow. It was very tough for me. ASD didn't even come into question when I was growing up. I wonder how much (if I have it) that caused the problems there were. I've lost every job I had because of my communication skills. Its only been the last few months I've started wondering if I have it too. Its not like I get aggressive or anything like that..,I just don't react quite the right way, particularly in 'instant reaction' situations so I never fitted in.., and of course fitting in is important with jobs. But the good thing about that, although I'd never have wanted it, is I'm able to be at home with my kids. It really is more than a full time job lol! I adore them, and I just want to make things as good as I can for them. I've accepted and am at peace with the fact that I just don't do 'friends' I'm a lot happier now I've accepted that.</p><p></p><p>The sliding scale of quick acting is still working .., very very grateful. No hypos in 36 hours. It makes quite a difference.</p><p></p><p>Spent a long time talking to Diabetes UK yesterday. It really helped to talk to someone who wasn't assuming I 'must' be doing something wrong. They're going to refer me to an advocate at Diabetes UK. I know they won't be able to help with the housing but it was just so good to talk to someone about the diabetes, explain what I'm doing and not be treated like I must be doing something wrong because my blood sugars aren't doing what they are supposed to, theoretically. Its always been a bit off, and it can be quite frustrating talking to people about it cause they always seem to assume you're ten and must be binging, must be incapable, not taking it seriously etc etc.</p><p></p><p>And thank you very much for letting me talk on here. It does help. I was quite scared when I started posting. Much better with the posting and now diabetes is behaving a bit better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="deannatrois, post: 932025, member: 204168"] I am sorry, I know this sounds like a made up sob story. Unfortunately it is real, and I expect I'm not the only one in this situation. I have got Shelter helping. Am already on the housing list but with priority Band D.., well don't hold your breath. Houses normally go to A, B and occasionally C bands. Once I go into emergency shared lettings housing (the one room scenaria) I will be C banding.., but will be bidding against others who've been C band for longer. We could be there quite a while. Housing say a year. Housing just won't take into account stress factors when looking at banding..,only things directly related to where you are living. Apparently some boroughs do this, and I'm living in one of them. Nothing I can do. I've confirmed with Shelter that this is how it works and yes, there's nothing I can do to get us reprioritised. All I can do is hope to get us into a one bed flat (which still won't be ideal with two sons who stress and don't sleep well) rather than the one room arrangement with shared lettings (where both kids will have no hope of going to a quiet place and destressing). Its wrong.., but I just have to concentrate on what I can do. So wish there was some justice in this. But I can't afford to get worked up about it. No I'm afraid there's no family or friends. All I do is care., I might have ASD myself (waiting for assessment).., as time has gone on, I've become more and more isolated. My own fault. Had a few knock backs and just sort of got used to being on my own. Can't explain it really. There's just something wrong with me, but I've accepted that and I'm happier on my own not wandering all the time what I've said that was inappropriate this time. I dread meeting people I'm afraid. I never know if I'm saying things the right way, or being inappropriate and its embarrassing. I always put people off. I don't mean to but i do. I prefer writing when communicating because of this cause I can look at what I've said and go back and change it if I think its a bit off. I dread phone conversations even. But the good thing about it is I can function.., and I can empathise with my sons, if that makes sense. I always did understand why there were difficulties for them and I've worked hard to help them develop and grow. It was very tough for me. ASD didn't even come into question when I was growing up. I wonder how much (if I have it) that caused the problems there were. I've lost every job I had because of my communication skills. Its only been the last few months I've started wondering if I have it too. Its not like I get aggressive or anything like that..,I just don't react quite the right way, particularly in 'instant reaction' situations so I never fitted in.., and of course fitting in is important with jobs. But the good thing about that, although I'd never have wanted it, is I'm able to be at home with my kids. It really is more than a full time job lol! I adore them, and I just want to make things as good as I can for them. I've accepted and am at peace with the fact that I just don't do 'friends' I'm a lot happier now I've accepted that. The sliding scale of quick acting is still working .., very very grateful. No hypos in 36 hours. It makes quite a difference. Spent a long time talking to Diabetes UK yesterday. It really helped to talk to someone who wasn't assuming I 'must' be doing something wrong. They're going to refer me to an advocate at Diabetes UK. I know they won't be able to help with the housing but it was just so good to talk to someone about the diabetes, explain what I'm doing and not be treated like I must be doing something wrong because my blood sugars aren't doing what they are supposed to, theoretically. Its always been a bit off, and it can be quite frustrating talking to people about it cause they always seem to assume you're ten and must be binging, must be incapable, not taking it seriously etc etc. And thank you very much for letting me talk on here. It does help. I was quite scared when I started posting. Much better with the posting and now diabetes is behaving a bit better. [/QUOTE]
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