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<blockquote data-quote="Danaemac" data-source="post: 656897" data-attributes="member: 42787"><p>This post sooooo sounds like me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I was that 15 yr old very ill / underweight teenager when I was diagnosed and coincidently my dad had just left the week previously I also lost my grandad the same week so not a very pleasant time in my life, however it was a relief to know what was wrong from then really I was in denial hearing the phrase out of my concerned mothers mouth of how's the blood sugar, shouldn't really be eating that etc etc was a lot of what got to me, if became about my condition not about me, I know she didn't understand and it did become a battle to the point I shut her out completely, (I know this probably isn't what you want to hear ) eventually I moved out but still every time I. Phoned first question wasn't how you doing it was how's the blood sugar it wasn't going away I knew it was there I just wanted to be treated normally I went to appointments at first but then it was come to clinic sit for 4 hrs and the Dr may speak to you like a human being but all you generally got was you shouldn't be doing this or that and I stopped going, it was all negative my life had been turned upside down on 3 separate incidents all I actually wanted was someone to give me a hug and tell me that everything was going to be ok, this continued for 5 yrs no support no reassurance and no help, I knew I needed the help but also knew what I should be doing, I eventually at 23 found my now husband who really has no idea about my diabetes but that is find as far as I'm concerned he knows how to treat a high / low and there is sick day rules card in my kit so not bothered but for the first time in years I was treated as a person not a person with a condition. We moved area and I decided I was going to see a new team a fresh start and see what could be done, I now have a great team, I was offered an insulin pump I said no I didn't want the reminder all day everyday connected to something my levels were not great at all and I ended up needing 4 operations on my eyes I knew at this point I needed to take control last year I agreed to an insulin pump and through my own choice attended to see my DSN once a month discussing things changing things together and engaging in my own care not being dictated to, I also found this forum and started learning about things carb counting, insulin pumps complications, I also read a thread you may be able to search for terminal and scared by kman what an effect that man and that thread had on me I went to my DSN and decided on a pump and from that day 6 months later my hba1c dropped from 9.8 to 6.8 the lowest it's ever been, my life transformed and my pump I got 06/05/2014 I would not give it back not for anything ever I met on my carb counting course some other type 1s 2 of whom I would class as very good friends and a support network I had never previously had life is all good my mum doesn't even ask how things are anymore she actually asks if it would suit clients she has she is even contributing to my new freestyle libre so I don't need to prick my fingers anymore might be worth looking at if she doesn't want to prick fingers needs a bit of financial input though as not funded</p><p></p><p>I know this sounds like a bit of a sob story but I guess what I am trying to say is maybe forget the diabetes and give your daughter a hug and ask her opinion you may be surprised of the outcome</p><p></p><p>You could also Show her this thread or leave the forum open conveniently somewhere</p><p></p><p>And you or her please feel free to pm if it helps</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Danaemac, post: 656897, member: 42787"] This post sooooo sounds like me :( I was that 15 yr old very ill / underweight teenager when I was diagnosed and coincidently my dad had just left the week previously I also lost my grandad the same week so not a very pleasant time in my life, however it was a relief to know what was wrong from then really I was in denial hearing the phrase out of my concerned mothers mouth of how's the blood sugar, shouldn't really be eating that etc etc was a lot of what got to me, if became about my condition not about me, I know she didn't understand and it did become a battle to the point I shut her out completely, (I know this probably isn't what you want to hear ) eventually I moved out but still every time I. Phoned first question wasn't how you doing it was how's the blood sugar it wasn't going away I knew it was there I just wanted to be treated normally I went to appointments at first but then it was come to clinic sit for 4 hrs and the Dr may speak to you like a human being but all you generally got was you shouldn't be doing this or that and I stopped going, it was all negative my life had been turned upside down on 3 separate incidents all I actually wanted was someone to give me a hug and tell me that everything was going to be ok, this continued for 5 yrs no support no reassurance and no help, I knew I needed the help but also knew what I should be doing, I eventually at 23 found my now husband who really has no idea about my diabetes but that is find as far as I'm concerned he knows how to treat a high / low and there is sick day rules card in my kit so not bothered but for the first time in years I was treated as a person not a person with a condition. We moved area and I decided I was going to see a new team a fresh start and see what could be done, I now have a great team, I was offered an insulin pump I said no I didn't want the reminder all day everyday connected to something my levels were not great at all and I ended up needing 4 operations on my eyes I knew at this point I needed to take control last year I agreed to an insulin pump and through my own choice attended to see my DSN once a month discussing things changing things together and engaging in my own care not being dictated to, I also found this forum and started learning about things carb counting, insulin pumps complications, I also read a thread you may be able to search for terminal and scared by kman what an effect that man and that thread had on me I went to my DSN and decided on a pump and from that day 6 months later my hba1c dropped from 9.8 to 6.8 the lowest it's ever been, my life transformed and my pump I got 06/05/2014 I would not give it back not for anything ever I met on my carb counting course some other type 1s 2 of whom I would class as very good friends and a support network I had never previously had life is all good my mum doesn't even ask how things are anymore she actually asks if it would suit clients she has she is even contributing to my new freestyle libre so I don't need to prick my fingers anymore might be worth looking at if she doesn't want to prick fingers needs a bit of financial input though as not funded I know this sounds like a bit of a sob story but I guess what I am trying to say is maybe forget the diabetes and give your daughter a hug and ask her opinion you may be surprised of the outcome You could also Show her this thread or leave the forum open conveniently somewhere And you or her please feel free to pm if it helps [/QUOTE]
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