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<blockquote data-quote="katrina63" data-source="post: 253199" data-attributes="member: 42149"><p>I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. I am in a situation where my partner of 5 years (he's 47) does not manage his Type 1 diabetes properly. He drinks heavily, never tests his blood sugar levels so therefore guesses his insulin dosage. Many times he goes to sleep and forgets to take it then wakes up sick. So far I have only witnessed one time where he had low sugar. He told me once that he uses more insulin than needed to avoid lows & he knows he will have a shorter life but would rather live for now. He is now impotent so I know there must be damage happening. A few weeks ago he told me he wanted a break because he was useless and had nothing to offer me and he was in a bad place. Of course I am upset but I am at a loss. He has cut off from me and I know his ex-wife used to nag him about his management and that probably contributed to his marriage break up. I have been there for him all the time, didn't interfere with his management & of course told him that we can work it out if he wants to take control. He is in a bad place and I feel helpless - if I push, then I know he will pull further away. You can only help so much but ultimately it up to the person. My psychologist told me that in reality he won't have a long life (lucky to reach 60), he will probably go blind (he has never seen a specialist of any type) and die from kidney failure. I just cried and cried. I can totally understand now how debilitating this disease is. What do you do when somebody shuts you out & won't help themselves? I actually made an appointment for him to see a counsellor - I knew that even though he said he would see someone, he would never make the appointment. He probably resents me for interfering but I just couldn't do nothing. I just hope he goes to that appointment. I love him so much and would do anything to support and help him, but if he won't help himself then I have to let go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katrina63, post: 253199, member: 42149"] I feel your pain. I am so sorry for your loss. I am in a situation where my partner of 5 years (he's 47) does not manage his Type 1 diabetes properly. He drinks heavily, never tests his blood sugar levels so therefore guesses his insulin dosage. Many times he goes to sleep and forgets to take it then wakes up sick. So far I have only witnessed one time where he had low sugar. He told me once that he uses more insulin than needed to avoid lows & he knows he will have a shorter life but would rather live for now. He is now impotent so I know there must be damage happening. A few weeks ago he told me he wanted a break because he was useless and had nothing to offer me and he was in a bad place. Of course I am upset but I am at a loss. He has cut off from me and I know his ex-wife used to nag him about his management and that probably contributed to his marriage break up. I have been there for him all the time, didn't interfere with his management & of course told him that we can work it out if he wants to take control. He is in a bad place and I feel helpless - if I push, then I know he will pull further away. You can only help so much but ultimately it up to the person. My psychologist told me that in reality he won't have a long life (lucky to reach 60), he will probably go blind (he has never seen a specialist of any type) and die from kidney failure. I just cried and cried. I can totally understand now how debilitating this disease is. What do you do when somebody shuts you out & won't help themselves? I actually made an appointment for him to see a counsellor - I knew that even though he said he would see someone, he would never make the appointment. He probably resents me for interfering but I just couldn't do nothing. I just hope he goes to that appointment. I love him so much and would do anything to support and help him, but if he won't help himself then I have to let go. [/QUOTE]
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