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<blockquote data-quote="Unbeliever" data-source="post: 300336" data-attributes="member: 30851"><p>The quote at he end of your post -which also strikes a chord with me- probably says it all Steve. To date I am successfully keeping off insulin but i feel as you do about it.</p><p></p><p>I expect your partner means well in tellng you it is your own fault. She is probably trying to encourage you to take charge of your own health , insulin or not you will still need to do that.</p><p>I managed to stay offf or postpone insulin by incresing my exercise and low carbing. I was not overweigh so in a way it was harder. I made a determind effort over abou 3 months and it paid off. That was over wo years ago now.</p><p></p><p>I don't have a weigh problem and only ever gained weight wih diabetes medication so have always been afraid of he insulin - weigh gain- more insulin- cycle - but that is not my reason for haing the thought of it.</p><p>I very much resent being at the beck and call of the NHS because of my diabetes . I feel that I am attached by some sort of invisible cord which they can tug at anytime they please . The whole thing feels like an invasion of y privacy and I don't want to </p><p>make that cord shorter.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for everyone who blames hemselves for this condition. I have always felt instinctively, that weight gain MUST be a symptom and not a cause. That is not to say that nohing can be done about weight but it is hardly surprising that, if people gain weigh whatever they do then they are bound o think it is a lost cause and hat they may as well just give in to it.</p><p>Particularly if they don't know hey are diabetic and even when they do hey are not given appropriate dietary advice.</p><p></p><p>They don' know what riggers diabetes in anyone let alone hose genetically inclined o get it. In my case i suspect it was stress.</p><p>Maybe i is triggered in some when they reach a certain weight , this can happen with other hormones i believe.</p><p></p><p>I do not blame myself but had i been overweigh i am sure i would have done so - reinforced by the opinions of family and friends. It seems o be human nature o try to blame the vicim/</p><p>Peole have tried to tell me it was because of my "faddy eating" This being the GI diet which probably kept diabetes at bay for years.</p><p>I Try telling your parner hat alhough you undestand she has your bes ineress at heart her attitude just makes you want o give up. Ask for her help in rying to keep your weight down.</p><p>If you really feel so strongly about insulin hen tell your doctor that you want to delay going onto it for a short time just to see if y</p><p>there is anyhing at all you can do to improve your readings. Then try very har in that period. if here is no improvemen then </p><p>you will know that you did everything possible and may find it easier to come o terms with he insulin.</p><p></p><p>I never ook glic myself but imagine that this also causes weight gsin. If you mange o reduce your dosage of this it could help considerably.</p><p>Start by telling yourself it is not your fault. There is a genetic link and noone knows what riggered your diabetes. You put on weigh BECAUSE of the diabees and it is harder to shift .</p><p>Maybe you didn' look after yourself but you didn't realise why this was happening and that here was anthing you could do about it.</p><p>Now you do.</p><p>Good luck with i all . You are not alone . Maybe you should ge your partner o read his hread.</p><p>Yes , it is hard enough wihout our nearest and dearest making i more difficult - albeit they mean well.</p><p></p><p>Wort a try to ge them to "leave you alone"?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Unbeliever, post: 300336, member: 30851"] The quote at he end of your post -which also strikes a chord with me- probably says it all Steve. To date I am successfully keeping off insulin but i feel as you do about it. I expect your partner means well in tellng you it is your own fault. She is probably trying to encourage you to take charge of your own health , insulin or not you will still need to do that. I managed to stay offf or postpone insulin by incresing my exercise and low carbing. I was not overweigh so in a way it was harder. I made a determind effort over abou 3 months and it paid off. That was over wo years ago now. I don't have a weigh problem and only ever gained weight wih diabetes medication so have always been afraid of he insulin - weigh gain- more insulin- cycle - but that is not my reason for haing the thought of it. I very much resent being at the beck and call of the NHS because of my diabetes . I feel that I am attached by some sort of invisible cord which they can tug at anytime they please . The whole thing feels like an invasion of y privacy and I don't want to make that cord shorter. I am so sorry for everyone who blames hemselves for this condition. I have always felt instinctively, that weight gain MUST be a symptom and not a cause. That is not to say that nohing can be done about weight but it is hardly surprising that, if people gain weigh whatever they do then they are bound o think it is a lost cause and hat they may as well just give in to it. Particularly if they don't know hey are diabetic and even when they do hey are not given appropriate dietary advice. They don' know what riggers diabetes in anyone let alone hose genetically inclined o get it. In my case i suspect it was stress. Maybe i is triggered in some when they reach a certain weight , this can happen with other hormones i believe. I do not blame myself but had i been overweigh i am sure i would have done so - reinforced by the opinions of family and friends. It seems o be human nature o try to blame the vicim/ Peole have tried to tell me it was because of my "faddy eating" This being the GI diet which probably kept diabetes at bay for years. I Try telling your parner hat alhough you undestand she has your bes ineress at heart her attitude just makes you want o give up. Ask for her help in rying to keep your weight down. If you really feel so strongly about insulin hen tell your doctor that you want to delay going onto it for a short time just to see if y there is anyhing at all you can do to improve your readings. Then try very har in that period. if here is no improvemen then you will know that you did everything possible and may find it easier to come o terms with he insulin. I never ook glic myself but imagine that this also causes weight gsin. If you mange o reduce your dosage of this it could help considerably. Start by telling yourself it is not your fault. There is a genetic link and noone knows what riggered your diabetes. You put on weigh BECAUSE of the diabees and it is harder to shift . Maybe you didn' look after yourself but you didn't realise why this was happening and that here was anthing you could do about it. Now you do. Good luck with i all . You are not alone . Maybe you should ge your partner o read his hread. Yes , it is hard enough wihout our nearest and dearest making i more difficult - albeit they mean well. Wort a try to ge them to "leave you alone"? [/QUOTE]
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