Some thoughts but I don't think they explain your results. I personally always use fingers and don't have a big problem with variability.
1) meters can have up to 20% variablility in results and still be considered OK, in practice I've found occasional wide differences, but most times repeated tests seem to be fairly close.
Have you checked your meters with control solution and (sorry but I'm trying to think of all possibilities) if your meter needs coding, checked that you have the correct code/chip.
2) I was told never to wipe with alcohol as it influenced results. Checking on the internet it seems that some authorities say use it and others say don't.
3) Alternative site testing is only recommended (according to Accuchek) at times when the BG is likely to be stable, pre meals, fasting, but not after exercise, during illness or if testing for a hypo.