Update for you all...
I had an appointment with my consultant (my regular consultant much to my relief). He said bringing my HbA1c down to 53 by summer was very exaggerated, he checked my HbA1c while I was there and it has came down to 84. He's very happy with this and not concerned about my eyes, because I have an appointment with the eye clinic in September, he was comfortable that if there were any issues they would be highlighted then. He's happy with my aiming for a blood sugar range between 5-8mmols. He also said in his experience hes never heard of any problems with the kidneys from lowering blood sugar too quickly. Hes checked my kidneys and bloods and everything is normal. So hes happy with me actively trying in November this year if I carry on the way I'm going.
Hes basically confirmed everything my diabetic midwife has said. I feel so happy now that I have spoke to him, and know I'm on the right track.
I'd have had a horrible week if it wasn't for all of you giving me advice and sharing your experiences, thank you all so much