As benerp has already said, that if you can take off if you want, I was adviced if I took my pump off for a longer period than 2 hours, if it was just a extended period of hours that I wasn't wearing, then to inject what 2 hours worth of basal rate, check BG and repeat this at 2 hourly interviews... If how ever I was taking pump break, then to start of with the later, but in the evening to use a long acting insulin to return to normal injections ( you keep some long acting insulin + pens or syrings just in case of emergencies)
As to living with it and being female, I haven't found this to be a problems... There's generally somewhere to stick you pump, and you do find different things and ways to use easy available items for pumps, mobile phone cases I've found very good to hold my pump, and distract the eye from it, baby soaks sewn or pin inside cloths etc
As too how the partner reacts, once the pumps presence has been forgotten about (which doesn't take long) everything remains as it did before, as it only takes a moment to unclip and push to one side if you want/need to (no planing involved)...