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hate feeling like im backed into a corner

thanku everyone i think i will reveal all .. seems its just easier to explain how i do it rather than if im ill lol xx
 
I don't tell anyone. I had quite a few people (all women!) ask how I'd lost weight.
I just said I gave up bread.

Then a few said I must have been intolerant!
I just said 'mmm...maybe..'

I think curiosity about my should stop outside my skin. What goes on in my body is my own business..
 
Cath

I know how you must feel. About seven years ago I had a severe weight loss due to a secondary illness. I quickly dropped from 14 stone to around 8 stone. It took the doctors a while to come up with a diagnosis (after they excluded many other possibilities) so during much of that time I was stressed and anxious about it.

The comments from friends, family and work mates really got to me and I would actually cross a street not to bump into someone heading my way and someone I knew I hadn’t seen for a while. I got weary of the ‘sad and concerned’ look on peoples faces and the constant questions. I almost forgot they were asking mostly because they were concerned.

It changed for me when one day when a workmate challenged me loudly and in front of many others by asking what EXACTLY was wrong with me. I explained I was brought up not to comment on how folks looked and because of that I had for many years held back from calling him a fat b*****d. From that date not one person at work made any more comments.

Bill
 
M the same as you and Totto. Tell the world. I even tell the kids I teach - they wanted to know why I was eating in a lesson. I've also had to decline cake sales when I previously would have been a safe bet for a donation. Most people thought what I was eating was dangerous initially but as the weight is coming off they can't believe it's happening. I hold my head up high. I regularly do PE cover (only one who likes it and doesn't whine). I believe in leading by example so when I did cover one day I led the warm up. The thought of a then 16 stone woman doing star jumps made the head spit his tea a cross the room.especially when I told him that my husband had asked if they had to resurface the tennis courts afterwards! I may not be able to have wine or cake regularly but I am going to compensate by looking hot! It's all in the state of mind! Hold your head up cath and enjoy that new figure!
 
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