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Help! I have so much weight to lose

When I have felt like this before I have felt down and not able to do much and therefore not bothered to eat anything but junk. So I reckon priority for me right now is food. I said I would do things differently this time, so I am cooking a roast with lots of veggies.

The music I am listening to today is Mumford & Sons and Vampire Weekend.
 
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Diagnosed prediabetic Easter 2014. Just left to get on with it, no guidance or help from GP. Every day I'm learning something new.
 
Just keep taking one day at a time. Maybe see your GP if you find yourself getting too depressed as sometimes we all need external help , whether that is meds or counselling to get us over these humps.
 
I agree with Cold Ethyl. I think there are times when we just have to get some external help. I know I did after I had a miscarriage following several unsuccessful IVFs. In the end I took St John's Wort to help lift me out of the never-ending sadness I seemed to be drowning in. That helped me, but I know that sort of self-medication with unknown substances is not to everyone's cup of tea, so a chat with the GP seems like a good move.
 
So sorry to hear you are feeling so down @zand. Take some of the very sound advice in these earlier responses and see your GP as soon as you can. You are doing a great job dealing with everything and sometimes we all just need a little additional help. It is hard not to worry about everyone else but try hard to focus on your own health first. And remember you have lots of support here.
 


So sorry to read that. I had two miscarriages after years of fertility treatment and was on waiting list for IVF. When they eventually contacted me, I was 36 weeks pregnant off own bat. I think just stepping off the stressful merry go round of tests and tablets and more tests did it for me. At the time, I don't think I recognised just how much I was just getting by and even now, 20 years later I can find myself having a good blub about it all. At the risk of hijacking the thread, I sometimes think that the GP just see a fat, anxious woman who has brought T2 on herself and never look back the notes and see that maybe, just maybe the stress and the worry and the constant feelings of failure might be a part of the current diagnosis.
Do get help Zand as it is far easier to cope with life's inevitable ups and downs if our underlying ability to cope with stress isn't being eroded by ongoing depression and anxiety.
 
Thanks everyone. I have taken St John's Wort before, but I wasn't taking any drugs then. So I suppose it's best to go to the doctor. At least I won't get the same old chat about losing weight, because I am losing weight now. I'm not sure I want to go because I can't face talking about things. Thanks for being so kind all of you
 
I feel the doctor is the one person I can really talk all my **** to. It is their job to listen.
 

My thyroid is overactive , had to have it ablated with radio iodine 131. I wish i didn't have diabetes for the last 20 years.
 
zand said:
Yes but there's lots of **** to talk about, I don't know where to start!
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I have taken to making a list and I simply pull it out of my bag and get going! My GP laughs, especially when I get a pen out to write things down so I don't forget. Think carefully - if you could change ONE thing and that change would make you begin to feel better, what would it be? That goes at the top of the list!
 
very like this .
 
Yes, thanks, I'm crying now, but that's good, not bad. The one thing I could change, well it won't ever change and that's why I'm stuck here again. What can you do when you need something to change and you know it won't?
 
zand said:
Yes, thanks, I'm crying now, but that's good, not bad. The one thing I could change, well it won't ever change and that's why I'm stuck here again. What can you do when you need something to change and you know it won't?
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The point is not whether you can change it or not, but to identify the thing that is making you feel so upset and depressed and then talk about it with someone you trust. We can't change someone's death, or miscarriage, or many other things, but it helps to talk about it and not bottle things up.
 
zand said:
Yes, thanks, I'm crying now, but that's good, not bad. The one thing I could change, well it won't ever change and that's why I'm stuck here again. What can you do when you need something to change and you know it won't?
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I think you either learn to accept that fact and try not to see it as central to your emotional well- being, or else you decide that it is so important to you that you change everything else in your life to get rid of it out of your life. There really aren't any other options as far as I can see. Not knowing what it is that is causing this pain, I can only suggest that counselling of some sort may help with reaching the best solution for you. Big hugs x
 

Yes, I hear what you are saying. I am upset because this is something that could change but won't, I'm OK with all the past stuff that can't be changed but when there could be a better future and there won't be one, I struggle.
 
Well it is central to my emotional well-being, that's the problem. Thanks for this. OK I'll go to a doctor to start with. At least I know what I will say now.
 
zand said:
Yes, I hear what you are saying. I am upset because this is something that could change but won't, I'm OK with all the past stuff that can't be changed but when there could be a better future and there won't be one, I struggle.
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In which case I suggest counselling for you - this might help you deal with it better or see a solution that you haven;t been able to countenance on your own. Sadly we can only ever change ourselves and learn to find happiness within us rather than relying on/expecting it to come from others.
 
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