Help me help my pertner. Please. xx

Hi Welcome

Poor you this is terrible to hear, him ignoring this may be part of a denial process, this may be something he has to go through, unfortunately him doing this will have a profound effect on hes health and both your lives, he may need support and gentle encouragement with gentle steering towards what he needs to do or he may need a shock and been taught about the awful complications that can occur by ignoring it, the saddest part is that all the bad things that can happen are avoidable, have a read of the forum and try to pick up some tips on eating etc as this is the single most powerful weapon in our arsenal and you may be able to gently turn him around to it, there is a thread running called terminal and scared, its author is a chap that has been down the route hes going down and has lived to regret it, maybe you could get him to read that thread, it may be all he needs to turn this around and find control, talk to him and tell him you dont fancy him going blind or losing hes legs, when he can prevent it etc etc, but in the end he has to be the one to change and this will be very frustrating for you,

glad you found us and hope we can help in some way

Andy

purplefrog said:

My bf been diagnosed as type 2. Has not lost weight & sugar levels getting higher. Just been given metformin & refusing to take. I need someone to talk 2 for advice. Please I am desperate for advice. X

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As i've said to many people who have asked or the same kind of help, You can only help those who want to help themselves. If your bf is just shutting his eyes to everything, there's not a lot you can do. Try to get him to talk about how he feels. Did a doctor or Nurse give him the impression there's nothing that can be done and the only way is down? They sometimes do that, but it's definitely not so. It takes committment to improve things. Losing weight is very difficult if you are an insulin resistant T2. You may not be able to control sugars, but still have so much insulin circulating that its "fat building hormone" function is working overtime. Getting a blood glucose meter and using it regularly may provide an incentive, but your b/f must decide for himself and then come o somewhere like this forum for help.
Hana

It sounds like you are really worried and rightly so. What are the bg readings when you say they are getting higher? Has he tried controlling his diet? You have come to the right place for advice as there is a lot of people who know how to help


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metformin can effect some peoples tummy but most people seem to cope fine on them and tbh if you read any information on any tablets you would read all sort of nasty things that can happen, but if the met does cause tummy upset he can just stop taking them no harm done, if this happens there is a slow release version which people that do react badly too seem to cope better with, not taking them is a not great idea, it is a very safe drug thats been tested for many many years, id sooner take metformin that anything else including pain killers etc and they have other benefits like a reduced risk in certain cancers, they are lso an appetite suppressant if he is looking to lose a few pounds they can help there too

purplefrog said:

the nurse was seeing him and then left a message on the answer machine to pick up tablets that he has never had before along with a warning that he will suffer stomach cramps upset stomach etc.

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Is that why he won't take the pills? Not everyone suffers these side effects - in fact nobody I know who's on metformin does, and I do know several.

If you can understand why he won't take them it'll be easier to help him.

Kate

Hi

Welcome.

I would say that a change of diet will bring great results, Who is in charge of cooking/food shopping?
Cut back/out sugary things and remember that carbohydrates turn into sugars so rice, potatoes, pasta, bread can be problematic, Cut out fruit juices.

Can you do some exercise together? Go for a walk, or swimming? Be sneaky!
Bribe him into losing weight or looking after himself, promise him something he wants.

Lots of typ 2s manage on diet and exercise so it can be done if you can get him motivated.


Good Luck!

Cara

Most people don't suffer with metformin. Unfortunately i do and can't take them but I am among the few. There is no harm giving metformin a go as there is a good chance that he won't have side effects. I don't know the situation when it comes to food but you could help him control his carb intake. I know I'm repeating what others have said but this is important!!!!! If you contact (personal Preferance) sanofi they will send out a free bg meter with 50 test strips included in the kit and then you will be able to monitor his bg as well


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Hi Purple Frog, this must be very frustrating for you. If you do get him to take the metformin you can reduce the tummy problems by getting him to take them in the middle of his meals. Like the others I would advise that he controls his intake of carbs and increases his exercise. Good luck xx

my friend who was diagnosed two weeks after me was the same he was in denial refusing any help, it took alot of hard persistant work to try to get him to take it seriously, and men arnt easy to do this with lol, eventually he had no choice as his eyes were blurry (he drives a waggon) and his thirst/loo habits to much he had to accept thankfully he in control ish now so what i am saying is in his own time maybe the symptoms will push him into taking control hard time for you to be stuck in the middle , my heart goes out to you dont give up xxx