This was almost the case for me last year as I was rushed to intensive care with DKA caused by an infection. This not only scared the life out of me but my children are petrified and they find it hard to leave my side and they are constantly worried that it will happen again.I look at the positives that it has made us all more aware of what can happen and noticing the signs but I just don't want us all living in fear.This has created extra guilt that they could be left without a mother, feel like my head could explode sometimes......I'm a terrible worrier that I'll leave my young kids without a mum.
So I know that fear of making sure I do my best for them.
Utimately if you've done your best, in your current knowledge and abilities then you are a fantastic mum.
When looking back just remember......we do the best, at the time.
Any decent person does.
Enjoy your kids, they aren't kids for long!
I am also deaf in my right ear due to mumps in the 80's (allergic to the MMR vaccine) so I can understand the fears, the isolation but am also thankful for advancements in technology so we can all find a way to communicate your mum sounds like an amazing woman overcoming adversity and I thank you for your advice. I'm sure the guilt may fade over time but it just feels so raw and fresh at the moment and probably will do until I learn how to crack this thing! I am determined but I just don't want it as a life for my girls. They are 14, 13 and 10 I want them to be healthy and happy. I suppose that's what every parent aims to achieve.Huge hugs to you - I hope you find some peace and take the other excellent advice already given.
I know it's a worry. My mum was type 1 diabetic and deaf, and actually advised (the good old 1970s) by everyone not to have children, due to problems managing type 1 pregnancies then, and the risk that I'd be deaf (and also the assumption she was incapable because she was deaf). I'm thrilled that attitudes and technology have moved on exponentially since then.
I'm very glad, on my own behalf, that she ignored the worries. I didn't turn out to be diabetic or deaf as a child and she was a great mother. I started going deaf in my 20s and have now lost almost all my hearing. Diabetes, I had problems in pregnancy at age 30, and was probably prediabetic since then, but it's only this year at the grand old age of 40 it's really been a big issue and I was diagnosed as type 2. But in both deafness and diabetes, management and technology mean that what I face and have to deal with is very different to what she did.
Deafness: my mum was very isolated from communication, even within our own family. Me - I think I have an almost normal life. I can text and hear and talk on a mobile phone, I can hear my family and friends, I can hear the TV, I can go to the theatre and concerts, I can go out to museums and farm parks and be fully part of my family's life. All due to super duper hearing aids and extra devices and a cultural awareness that didn't exist when I was a child. Diabetes: well, if I eventually get diagnosed as a type 1, I don't know what the technology or management of things are now, but I'm assuming that the giant insulin syringes and weird glass vials of things that my mum had to sterilise all the time are not part of it.
I know what you mean and I share the same feeling with you. I found out about my diabetes 2 months ago, my mum and has it as well as her sisters and brothers, so here I have it too. I had healthy weight, healthy diet, but inherited diabetes from my mum. And I was thinking my boys might or likely one day will have it too.. I told them to cut down on carbs and sweet stuff but they brush it away ( both are students living away from home). They know little about this disease, just like me before I was diagnosed, so they don't see it as a real threat. I don't want to scare them, but don't know how to make them aware of it either. My heart is heavy with guilt too..I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at the age of 29 in 2014. I am currently the only member of my family who is diabetic and because I never had to think about it before my diagnosis I never worried about my children. Now that I live with this condition I am constantly living in fear that my children will have the same fate as me and it leaves me with sleepless nights and I don't think I could bare the guilt. How do I get past this?
I had all of my children when I was diagnosed (they are 14, 13 and 10) and like you it was the first question I asked about whether they would be at risk of developing it. It was a major concern that they would possibly get a disgnosis like I did in their 20's. I know all I can do is wait and be there to help them should this be the case ,but the guilt just seems to eat me up. They are healthy and happy now so I am trying to enjoy this rather than wait for the worst to happen.when I was diagnosed we had already had a child, the first thing I asked my consultant was "will my son develop it because of me" the answer probably not, he will be no more at risk than anyone else out there. so do I feel guilty? yes I do but I also recognise that he may never develop it but I watch him like a hawk and as to now, nothing (he's 21 now) I know how you may be feeling but try and relax and enjoy your children, but just keep a watchful eye on them.
I also feel that there needs to be a better understanding and more education on this condition as sometimes it feels like people don't realise how dangerous this condition can be. I am quite lucky with my girls as they have been very keen to learn about it and they often come onto this site to educate themselves. When I was diagnosed I thought it was a UTI my weight as fine and everything was healthy, I was just urinating more frequently and very thirsty. I hope that your children are not affected but educate themselves so that they know what to do in emergency situations. Thank you for your reply.I know what you mean and I share the same feeling with you. I found out about my diabetes 2 months ago, my mum and has it as well as her sisters and brothers, so here I have it too. I had healthy weight, healthy diet, but inherited diabetes from my mum. And I was thinking my boys might or likely one day will have it too.. I told them to cut down on carbs and sweet stuff but they brush it away ( both are students living away from home). They know little about this disease, just like me before I was diagnosed, so they don't see it as a real threat. I don't want to scare them, but don't know how to make them aware of it either. My heart is heavy with guilt too..
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