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Just unable to cope anymore

Hello everyone,

Just a message to say I am ok, sorry I haven't posted, the exhaustion has been awful, had my appt with the counsellor yesterday which helped a little, at least I got to speak openly to someone without being concerned I was worrying them too much.
Urologist called me today, my kidney scans were fine, he thinks it's either an overactive bladder which will require medication or a gynaecological condition which will require further tests.
I am still very down, my skin has gone haywire, cystic acne on my face and an abscess under my arm which is very painful, obviously the stress has wreaked havoc on my system. I am going away for a couple of days over the weekend at my partner's insistence, he says I absolutely need to get out of this house, I know he is right but I am nervous leaving this house unattended while this vermin issue is still ongoing, pest control are due to come back out tomorrow to check everything and put more poison down so I guess it's a waiting game to see what they say.
Thank you all again for your advice and support, it really does mean a lot.

Maggie
 
That's better news and sounded like your appointment has done you some good. You enjoy your weekend away and when you come home I'm sure the rats will be gone too. Let us no how you get on. X
 
Thanks for the update @Maggie75, glad the counselling helped a bit, your house will be fine, try not to worry about it while you’re away, go away, enjoy the break and time with your partner. Some positive news on your kidneys too which will be a little less worry for you
 
Hello again,

I am struggling badly again with mental health issues, thought the vermin issues in this house were sorted, no noises until last night, I can take no more with it, this house is cursed, or I am. Today has been beyond awful, had a screaming argument with my partner and finally told him I don't want to be here anymore, my mind is broken, it's too much. Was persuaded to call nhs 24 and the mental health team will be involved now, I have refused to go in and see them, I fear they will hospitalise me now. How much can a person be expected to take?

Maggie
 
I’m so sorry to hear things aren’t improving for you, it’s very difficult and scary when you feel like you do. No one can force you to go and see the mental health team but take a step back and think about it, they could be your saviour. The thought of hospital can be terrifying but it may be the best place for you, intensive treatment from those who are trained and they can observe & help you 24/7.

What scares you about hospital? There is no shame in needing help & support and if a spell in hospital can provide that for you please at least consider it
 
Maggie75 said:
Was persuaded to call nhs 24 and the mental health team will be involved now, I have refused to go in and see them, I fear they will hospitalise me now. How much can a person be expected to take?
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Did you have bad experience with hospitalisation for mental health problems before?
With how you're feeling at the moment, this may give you just the break you need.

Wish you all the best, please let us know how you are if you can, I was worried about you.
 
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No, I have had no previous experience with being hospitalised for my mental health, I think it just seems like the end of the line with this and it frightens me badly. I will go and see them tomorrow just to see if they can put something in place to help me, I worry very much for myself right now as well. Thank you for your support and I'll do my best to keep you updated with how I get on.

Maggie
 
Hi @Maggie75 ,

Sorry to read about your issues.
I have a neighbour who’s a bird feeder. It attracts pigeons & squirrels too…
We have a conservatory. About 6 years ago I could hear something either in the conservatory panel end wall or under the floor?
The noise was going on for weeks right under where I normally sit…

After a bit of investigation, I found a gap in the brick work where it had got in & was burrowing out the cladding under the floor..
Tried traps by the gap entrance as it seems it was possibly a rat?
The traps couldn’t even catch a cold..

I resorted to filling the gap with postcrete I had left over from a fencing job I’d done a few months earlier. “postcrete” sets fast.
I had 2 days of this rat going crazy then it all went silent.

Wishing you peace..
 
Many moons ago I found myself in a bit of a fix with anorexia. I really was unwell. Hospital treatment saved me - literally.

I’d urge you not to think of hospital treatment as the end of the line, but the beginning of a new line, with help to help you cope with life.

You may not need inpatient care, but honestly, whatever you do, don’t see it as a failure. See it as having the strength to seek help.


We all need help sometimes. Life can be harsh.
 
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Hi everyone,

Just an update on what's been happening, I am still feeling very low, had a community psychiatric nurse call me yesterday, I recognised her from her voice as one of the ones who treated me so badly last year, she spoke to me for a while and told me they had no psychiatrist working there just now but she would look at lists etc for me to see what could be done and another CPN would call me today.
The other CPN did call me today, she was very nice and sympathetic to what I have been going through, told me very extensive notes had been written up yesterday (I'll bet they had), and she was aware I wanted to speak with a psychiatrist as I've been promised for years now for a formal diagnosis of my mental health condition and treatment plan going forward. She advised me their resident psychiatrist was working from the hospital today but she would definitely speak to him when he came in later and contact me again tomorrow.
So in 24 hours it went from them having no psychiatrist on staff to not only having one but one that the CPN's can speak to on a patient's behalf. How can I possibly trust these people who will so openly lie to and gaslight you. Just an absolute joke, I'll not be holding my breath to see anyone anytime soon, honestly starting to realise if I can't be strong enough to get through this myself and keep myself alive then I'm done.

Maggie
 
Reach out for help Maggie. I completely understand how overwhelming the desire to be gone can be. Life can change. The decision to end it is often final.
I recently lost my brother to suicide January 24th. he was 39. It was a cry for help he didn't want to die but no one found him in time. Would you believe he was a patient in hospital for having seizures but something happened and he decided to try take his life in his hospital room.
I sat for 5 days watching his body working praying for a miracle but his brain no longer worked. I lost my real dad to suicide, I found my step dad hanging at age 10. I took him down and he was in hospital for a while learning to walk and talk.
I myself have attempted to end my life.

After the agony and heartbreaking 5 days I endured watching my brother die, I know I have to continue on, even though life is very miserable.
I have lost my parents. I don't have support. I am in a controlling abusive relationship I can't leave due to threats so believe me when I wish I wasn't here.

I know it won't always be like this.
Please speak to someone in authority who can assist with your issues at home. Don't suffer through it.
 
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