Low to zero sex drive

Hi @Zippy159 ,

Welcome to the forums, there could many reasons for your issues and it may not be solely down to diabetes, although it could be a contributing factor...............................

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Nerve damage may also cause vaginal dryness, which is twice as common in women with diabetes as it is in women without diabetes. It's also a result of aging. "Vaginal dryness is very common among women who are menopausal or post-menopausal," says Lindau. In those cases, a lack of estrogen is behind the dryness, and problems may be treated with prescription estrogen, available in pills, a patch, or a cream used in the vagina.

Because researchers don't understand exactly why women's bodies lose the ability to self-lubricate when menopause isn't the cause, treatment options are slim. Most experts recommend using store-bought lubricant.

Women with diabetes are also prone to the same blood-flow issues men face because of nerve or blood vessel damage. Diabetes complications may make it difficult for blood to move to the vagina and clitoris. "The question we have, as far as women go, is that there are women with excellent A1Cs who don't have any blood vessel issues," says Roszler. "They don't have any neuropathy. But they still have sexual problems."

Because studying female arousal problems is difficult for many reasons—women may have a hard time determining just how turned on they are, and there's less of a physical sign of arousal in women than there is in men—treatments are few. But Goldstein says research is promising.

A small study in the August issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women with type 1 diabetes who took 5 mg of tadalafil (Cialis) for 12 weeks reported an improved quality of life, greater arousal and orgasm, more enjoyment and satisfaction from sex, and more frequent sex. This doesn't mean you should start sneaking your partner's pills—please don't: The treatment is unapproved in women, dangerous in some people with heart problems, and generally unsafe until proved otherwise. But it does show promise for female treatments of the future. As for the present, Lindau says some women use clitoral pumps to aid blood flow but notes that the device isn't for everyone.

You can read the full text here ..............
http://www.diabetesforecast.org/2012/nov/sex-and-diabetes-what-you-wanted-to-know.html

If it's affecting your marriage, then I strongly urge you to consult your doctor.

Zippy159 said:

I'm looking for help / advise regarding no sex drive and being so dry down below can someone please help as this is affecting my marriage now very much so thanks in advance

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Hi, so sorry to read of your problem. Here is a link that could be very helpful. http://www.diabeteswellness.net/sites/default/files/Sexual Dysfunction and Diabetes in Women.pdf
Also, please pay a visit to see your GP ( or a female GP if you prefer, to check things out) they might suggest using KY jelly.
I wish you all the best, take care and good luck x

Assume you are asking on behalf of your wife?
I'm no expert but can pass on info gleaned from personal experience and knowledge of friends problems.
Being 'very dry down below ' is very common in post menopausal women. Unless dealt with makes sex very unpleasant and painful, enough to eliminate any desire and create dread at even thought of sex. But there are specific lubricant's you can get on prescription (some topical hormone creams) or buy over Internet (Amazon) GPs are very familiar with this common problem and will prescribe several different lubricant's until you find the one that suits you. Sylk being a popular one.

Hypothyroidism?

Potteron said:

there are specific lubricant's you can get on prescription (some topical hormone creams) or buy over Internet (Amazon) GPs are very familiar with this common problem

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Lubricants are either silicone based or water based. I think silicone based are better. Once menopause begins, lubes can be surprisingly beneficial even when there is no medical condition.

Lubricants won't help a sleeping libido. My bet is on low thyroid or possibly the wrong man.

Zippy159 said:

No it's for myself and everything you've said unfortunately is very true thanks

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Your profile states you are male