Mood swings!

Annon56 said:

My partner says some awful things to me in the most of a hypo it a hyper and their words are hurtful and upsetting. I don’t feel like I can express any feelings because I’m not the ones with diabetes and nothing I have to deal with can be any worse than that. I’m very understanding, 9/10 I take the sh!t and forget about it, sometimes I get an apology, sometimes I don’t. I often worry am I being a pushover or can they truly not control what comes out their mouth?

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Being on the receiving end of unjustified verbal abuse is crushing.

Having had hypos and been hyperglycaemic (40 mmol/l) without hitting out at my partner, I don't believe that these conditions can ever be used to justify bad behaviour to loved ones. No excuse saying that they have no control over what is said. Your partner needs to appreciate that you are also adversely affected by their diabetes and so should modify their behaviour towards you accordingly.

Do you think he says bad things to his boss when he has hypoglycemia? No, because we are well aware of what we are doing. Although the level of bg does affect mood, you can simply tell your partner, "please leave me for 15 minutes while my bg returns to normal."

Annon56 said:

I don’t feel like I can express any feelings because I’m not the ones with diabetes and nothing I have to deal with can be any worse than that.

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I think any diabetic will say that there were things in his life unrelated to diabetes that were worse than diabetes. This disease is sometimes annoying, but in general diabetes is just diabetes, not something really terrible and definitely not the worst thing in life.

I want to say that if a person allows himself to snap at you, then the reason is not diabetes, but that he does not appreciate you enough to control himself and just covers his actions with a diagnosis.