leslie10152
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- Canberra ACT
- Type of diabetes
- Type 2
- Treatment type
- Insulin
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- Ignorance
For years, I wanted to tell my story to others, to speak to groups of what it took to reach this point in my life - only to be pushed aside and ignored. It is a misery that knows no limit to its depth.
I have always had that need to be there for others, I have known suffering and rejection - yet I have not grown bitter and resentful. I feel the pain of others, I know that demoralizing sense of failure. The realisation that the world has categorised you as nothing. No worth, no use, no identity.
I met others who have suffered far worse, yet they all taught me the same lesson - 'to deny empathy, is to negate life'. I took this on board, and began to see that suffering is a life lesson. If you suffer, see why and learn to adapt. Why does this happen, and....ARE YOU THE ROOT CAUSE! Are you to blame for the state of your life? Understand this - what you give to the world....is what the world returns to you. That which is thrown to the outgoing tide, is returned with the incoming tide.
I wanted to help others, to show them my own mistakes and shortcomings, and what I learned from it. But I was shoved aside and ignored. I became angry and adversarial, and this did not help my quest. I was deemed as egotistical and arrogant, so people ignored me. I was devastated and disillusioned, I wanted to give up.
Yet the need to reach out to others continued to fill my thoughts. A Hindu gentleman said to me, 'ambition can create fire, as you approach others, they will this flame in your palms and reject you. To truly connect with others, you must be ready to have others douse the flames of your ambition, then as you pass information to them, first they must pass information to you.'
From this I learned the true nature of empathy. See the other side of an argument before you acknowledge your own. From here the path became clear.
I found the forum, and my life has taken on new meaning. My very sincere thanks to all those who have given me this fabulous gift.
I have always had that need to be there for others, I have known suffering and rejection - yet I have not grown bitter and resentful. I feel the pain of others, I know that demoralizing sense of failure. The realisation that the world has categorised you as nothing. No worth, no use, no identity.
I met others who have suffered far worse, yet they all taught me the same lesson - 'to deny empathy, is to negate life'. I took this on board, and began to see that suffering is a life lesson. If you suffer, see why and learn to adapt. Why does this happen, and....ARE YOU THE ROOT CAUSE! Are you to blame for the state of your life? Understand this - what you give to the world....is what the world returns to you. That which is thrown to the outgoing tide, is returned with the incoming tide.
I wanted to help others, to show them my own mistakes and shortcomings, and what I learned from it. But I was shoved aside and ignored. I became angry and adversarial, and this did not help my quest. I was deemed as egotistical and arrogant, so people ignored me. I was devastated and disillusioned, I wanted to give up.
Yet the need to reach out to others continued to fill my thoughts. A Hindu gentleman said to me, 'ambition can create fire, as you approach others, they will this flame in your palms and reject you. To truly connect with others, you must be ready to have others douse the flames of your ambition, then as you pass information to them, first they must pass information to you.'
From this I learned the true nature of empathy. See the other side of an argument before you acknowledge your own. From here the path became clear.
I found the forum, and my life has taken on new meaning. My very sincere thanks to all those who have given me this fabulous gift.