Hi Danny,
I think it is up to personal choice as to whether to go ahead and have kids that may be prone to diabetes. I have had a son, who is now 16, and doesn't have diabetes. My brother didn't get diabetes or any of the other auto immune complaints that I have and his two children are free too. I think its good that you have made your mind up and I wish you well with your relationship, but Type 1 diabetes doesn't automatically transfer into your childrens genes. Ive had diabetes for a long time as well as other auto- immune conditions. I didn't expect to become pregnant but when I discovered that I was, that was it and I haven't looked back at all. I think that life and fate can be interlinked. Diabetes can be a hard cross to bear, but so are other illnesses and challenges in life generally.
I feel that happiness and joy comes from the heart and mind and not from a fear of life and its obsticles, although living with obstacles can lead to a fuller understanding of life and the joys within it are more appreciated.
Best , Geri