totally lost and need help

Me again Ming
To control diabetes and reduce weight, a good way is to reduce the carbs in the diet, that is, Cut sugar out and reduce anything with starch as low as you feel comfortable.
Get the "Collins Little Gem" calorie counter. It's inexpensive, small and contains more than 350 pages with information on about a dozen foods on each. The introductory chapter is quite helpful too.
If you search through the forum, you'll find a number of ways of dealing with carbs. Many of us like to reduce our carb intake to below 100g per day, but another successful approach is to exchange High GI foods for Low GI.
You and your husband need to discuss this and work out which would suit you. Then once you have tried an approach, you might change according to how well it works.
If you are not sure what a carb is, read the "stickies"

http://www.amazon.co.uk/GL-Glycaemic-Lo ... 0007222149

This little book is cheap and will give you lost of information and ideas.

It works too - and is a good diet for diabetics.

Best of luck - doesn't sound as if he was told in the most tactful way!