Unplanned 3rd pregnancy

It sounds as if you need to talk through your options with someone who can help give you an idea of the risks if you decide to continue with the pregnancy. With your previous pregnancies did you have a midwife who specialised in diabetes? Could you contact them, or your diabetic nurse and ask for a discussion?

I second this, have a chat with medical professionals and see your options. I got into midwife and obstetric care at the very end of the first trimester of my first pregnancy, too late for the recommended folic acid. I had a very healthy baby, who is an absolute whirlwind of a toddler now.

I completely understand your worries about another stressful pregnancy. I had a sense of "never again!!" when I left the hospital with my second baby. We're fine. Would you have your third baby, if you knew your pregnancy would be healthy and free of complications?