Denial - it comes and goes

pinkzinc

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Hi,

I am type 2 and have been diagnosed for about 10 years. I take metformin, lantus and Novorapid.

I've recently been through a period of denial and have ignored my diabetes and medication for a while, taking metformin and injecting sporadically. I've just had my HbA1c done and it's 10.4% (90mmol/mol). It was wake up call.

However, I know what I'm like, I've dipped in and out of denial / depression a few times. How do I stop this cycle?
 

anna29

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Hello pinkzinc .

Can you remember a really good time with your diabetes control ?
Rememeber the great feeling of progress made and you could really feel and see the great results ?

As a suggestion you could try keep this at the front of your mind as a goal to feel just like that
all over again...
Another suggestion is do you have a photograph of when you last felt this great ?
If you have - you can dig it out - put it up somewhere you can see to act as the reminder.


Usually its the need of a break of a "fixed routine" we can find ourselves in.
With the testing , food/meal planning , insulin/meds regime's it can be a drain at times.
We do understand just 'how' it can be and get to be easier to ignore things as time goes by...

Do you know if there is a local diabetes support group near you ?
You can get to meet other's face to face .
This would help with both the denial/depression you mention.

It really is a new page to start with here for you.
Think new page , new routine , new 'me' ... :)

Diabete's sadly does 'not' give us a day off nor a holiday from it !!!
It can be hard going to keep and stick with a fixed regime .
To keep things both steady and stable .
Tell yourself once - you start to make changes things will improve for the better.

Make just small simple changes to start with. then when as your confidence grows
you can add more.
One step at a time is the best approach to begin with.

Try making a little list of the simple things to eliminate the obvious that isnt doing you
any favours.
Tick these off - as out of your routine - for the next few days.
Then do a new to do list - in this one add in the good things that will help you.
Keep both lists small so it wont feel too much all at once .

I did this when I very first started - carried the 'to do good things list' around in my handbag
for weeks afterwards!
It was wonderfully easy to whip it out when out shopping/cafe's/other places to refer to.
Within 3 months massive changes happened .
It is hard just getting started I know - we all have had to start somewhere.

Have you had the newly diagnosed link ?
In this is some great starting points and really useful information to help
get started with.
If you havent let us know and we can get it to you.

Anna.
 

daisy1

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Hi pinkzinc and welcome to the forum :)

I think many motified members will be along soon to tell you what they do. Perhaps this information may also help you to get back on track. Ask all the questions you like as we are all here for you.


BASIC INFORMATION FOR NEW MEMBERS

Diabetes is the general term to describe people who have blood that is sweeter than normal. A number of different types of diabetes exist.

A diagnosis of diabetes tends to be a big shock for most of us. It’s far from the end of the world though and on this forum you’ll find well over 30,000 people who are demonstrating this.

On the forum we have found that with the number of new people being diagnosed with diabetes each day, sometimes the NHS is not being able to give all the advice it would perhaps like to deliver - particularly with regards to people with type 2 diabetes.

The role of carbohydrate

Carbohydrates are a factor in diabetes because they ultimately break down into sugar (glucose) within our blood. We then need enough insulin to either convert the blood sugar into energy for our body, or to store the blood sugar as body fat.

If the amount of carbohydrate we take in is more than our body’s own (or injected) insulin can cope with, then our blood sugar will rise.

The bad news

Research indicates that raised blood sugar levels over a period of years can lead to organ damage, commonly referred to as diabetic complications.

The good news

People on the forum here have shown that there is plenty of opportunity to keep blood sugar levels from going too high. It’s a daily task but it’s within our reach and it’s well worth the effort.

Controlling your carbs

The info below is primarily aimed at people with type 2 diabetes, however, it may also be of benefit for other types of diabetes as well.
There are two approaches to controlling your carbs:

  • Reduce your carbohydrate intake
  • Choose ‘better’ carbohydrates
Reduce your carbohydrates

A large number of people on this forum have chosen to reduce the amount of carbohydrates they eat as they have found this to be an effective way of improving (lowering) their blood sugar levels.

The carbohydrates which tend to have the most pronounced effect on blood sugar levels tend to be starchy carbohydrates such as rice, pasta, bread, potatoes and similar root vegetables, flour based products (pastry, cakes, biscuits, battered food etc) and certain fruits.

Choosing better carbohydrates

Another option is to replace ‘white carbohydrates’ (such as white bread, white rice, white flour etc) with whole grain varieties. The idea behind having whole grain varieties is that the carbohydrates get broken down slower than the white varieties –and these are said to have a lower glycaemic index.
http://www.diabetes.co.uk/food/diabetes ... rains.html

The low glycaemic index diet is often favoured by healthcare professionals but some people with diabetes find that low GI does not help their blood sugar enough and may wish to cut out these foods altogether.

Read more on carbohydrates and diabetes

Eating what works for you

Different people respond differently to different types of food. What works for one person may not work so well for another. The best way to see which foods are working for you is to test your blood sugar with a glucose meter.

To be able to see what effect a particular type of food or meal has on your blood sugar is to do a test before the meal and then test after the meal. A test 2 hours after the meal gives a good idea of how your body has reacted to the meal.

The blood sugar ranges recommended by NICE are as follows:

Blood glucose ranges for type 2 diabetes
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 8.5 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (adults)
  • Before meals: 4 to 7 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 9 mmol/l
Blood glucose ranges for type 1 diabetes (children)
  • Before meals: 4 to 8 mmol/l
  • 2 hours after meals: under 10 mmol/l
However, those that are able to, may wish to keep blood sugar levels below the NICE after meal targets.

Access to blood glucose test strips
The NICE guidelines suggest that people newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes should be offered:

  • structured education to every person and/or their carer at and around the time of diagnosis, with annual reinforcement and review
  • self-monitoring of plasma glucose to a person newly diagnosed with type 2 diabetes only as an integral part of his or her self-management education

Therefore both structured education and self-monitoring of blood glucose should be offered to people with type 2 diabetes. Read more on getting access to blood glucose testing supplies.

You may also be interested to read questions to ask at a diabetic clinic

Note: This post has been edited from Sue/Ken's post to include up to date information.
 

dabmim

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pinkzinc said:
Hi,

I am type 2 and have been diagnosed for about 10 years. I take metformin, lantus and Novorapid.

I've recently been through a period of denial and have ignored my diabetes and medication for a while, taking metformin and injecting sporadically. I've just had my HbA1c done and it's 10.4% (90mmol/mol). It was wake up call.

However, I know what I'm like, I've dipped in and out of denial / depression a few times. How do I stop this cycle?
Hi Pink,

I fully sympathise with you! I too am diabetic (T2)m on insulin (5 jabs a day) and metformin. I tend to dip in and out of denial too, and remember my diagnosis when I denied it and even asked for a re-test! I felt non of my family members had the condition, and having just had a major RTA didn't help either. So you're not alone... Chin up :)
 

KennyS

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Hello Pinkzinc and welcome. I am speaking as a person who was only recently diagnosed so I my live to regret my words on this forum but I am approaching Diabetes with the same approach as I used to successfully leave a 25 year smoking habit behind. The problem, for me, with the recommended diet, which is, eat everything but in moderation, is that it allows you to indulge in things that if not carefully controlled are not good for you. Kind of like smoking a Marlboro lite. I have tested enough to know what foods I react to and by how much and have tailored, along with tremendous help from my wife, a diet that is healthful and filling. I have taken a segment of foods completely off of the table as if they were nothing more than good tasting poison. So, as time goes on, those foods become less and less important to me because I know that they will have an immediate effect on my BG levels and for someone like me who loves breads and sweets, will, over time result in 'moderation creep'. I have seen tremendous results in many aspects of my health and energy since stopping (not cutting down) grains, starches and sugars. For me that is the motivation that I need not to indulge. If I tell myself 'never' and design my life around that message, it sends a much different message to my mind then telling myself I can have 'some'. Do I long for some of these old haunts?.... yes... but as time goes by, I think about them less and less... I am now 'eating to live' and not placing so much importance on the indulgent approach of 'living to eat' that is so prevalent in our western diet....

As a side... As a very young soldier, I worked in a combat support company that had a mortar platoon. We would help them load charges from time to time. Those charges consisted of a very thin square (about4 inches) of nitroglycerin. As it turns out, nitroglycerin, at least in these squares is sweet. You can break off a piece and suck on it like candy.. which, being out in the middle of nowhere was kind of a treat... That is until you break off one to many pieces... Then you become enveloped in one of the worse headaches you have ever experienced.... I stopped that in a hurry.... sugar and starch has taken a little longer... guess it took longer to discover the headache.


Kenny :thumbup: