The carers are so often forgotten.
Fist off make sure you are registered with your gp as your partners carer. This does make a difference and they need to know.
Second- if your husband needs a care plan, then make sure you ask for one. GP's have to give 2% of their patients a care plan. It's up to them who they choose, but you can ask for one. Again, this is necessary for some of the future possibiltity of difficulties to be taken off you.
Personally, I hate talking diabetes to friends or family that aren't diabetic. Why should my illness of 30+years impact on others? Yes, I'm type 1 so easier to manage, but life doesn't revolve around an illness. So I wonder why you should be needing to talk about your diabetes to others?
I know I have 2 friends coming round for a chinese tomorrow night, but my choice of food will be my choice.. And nobody will say anything about my choices etc. so I just wonder why your diabetes is subject of conversation with his family? To my non diabetic friends or family nobody except my mum ;who I have banned!) ever talks about my diabetes. Never. There is so much good to talk about, why weigh others down with illnesses?
I know the latter paragraph is hard to read, i just try to also see things from 'outside the box'.
If you have both got wills, "living wills" DNR's wtc and you have both discussed short n longterm plans together and have these written down then I do not understand talking of illnesses with family... You have to have your life's sorted out first with wills, carer registered, care plans, DNR's etc etc and then tell children etc your wishes..
Then tey to move on with your life's and enjoy them. Diabetes is a serious, critical illness but not one that that needs to be at top of list of chats..