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<blockquote data-quote="Winnie53" data-source="post: 1429185" data-attributes="member: 160246"><p>Maggie, I think you're right. If anything happened to you, it would be devastating for the girls. It's good that you have that awareness. And how wonderful they've always known that you love them, more importantly, unconditionally, and that you're there for them when you're well. That counts for a lot. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found your way here, that you're focused on improving your health.</p><p></p><p>It's hard growing up with a distant mother. I grew up in a family where my basic needs were always met - (shelter, heat, food, clothing, school supplies, etc.) - and I'm, of course, grateful. I knew a lot of kids who had it far rougher than I. At least I felt provided for, safe, which is important, but... not much more. Dad passed when I was in my late 20's. I'm slowly losing my mother now to dementia.</p><p></p><p>The need to feel connected to others is universal. We all need it. Decades ago, I was shocked to learn that almost everyone in a class I was taking only had one friend. At the time, I'm not sure if I had even that. And I mistakenly thought everyone else had loads of friends. Over the decades, I've learned that "family" is where you make it." My closest friends have become my family.</p><p></p><p>I wish I'd had a greater sense of connection from my parents. I didn't. I don't think they knew how. It's not that they were in any way bad people. Again, they just didn't know how to do it. They had acquaintances, but no close friends.</p><p></p><p>It's hard. But look at you. Despite the neglect you experienced as a child, you've always been there for your girls when you're well. That's so very, very important. </p><p></p><p>I have two friends that I see weekly. Our time together is part structured, part unstructured. We share a meal and we take turns answering these questions: What was your best and worst this week? What was your progress this week? What are your goals for the coming week? So simple, yet I can't begin to tell you how much those two hours mean to me, to us. We've been doing it for years.</p><p></p><p>What brought my two friends and I together was a fundraiser, then many years later, a common, shared goal that we each wanted to work toward. In a sense, you have that here with us... diabetes. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Sadness is a funny thing. It's with us, sometimes for a long time, then something shifts, and it's gone. It helps to have others who listen, who support us as we ride it out...</p><p></p><p>Find ways to take care of yourself. Eat the best foods you can. Take walks. Look for simple acts of kindness when you're out and about. Make the time you need for sleep, rest and relaxation. Find something, anything that you enjoy. Perhaps a good movie or book. Keep talking. Like chalup said, "we are here to listen.".</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Winnie53, post: 1429185, member: 160246"] Maggie, I think you're right. If anything happened to you, it would be devastating for the girls. It's good that you have that awareness. And how wonderful they've always known that you love them, more importantly, unconditionally, and that you're there for them when you're well. That counts for a lot. :) I'm glad you found your way here, that you're focused on improving your health. It's hard growing up with a distant mother. I grew up in a family where my basic needs were always met - (shelter, heat, food, clothing, school supplies, etc.) - and I'm, of course, grateful. I knew a lot of kids who had it far rougher than I. At least I felt provided for, safe, which is important, but... not much more. Dad passed when I was in my late 20's. I'm slowly losing my mother now to dementia. The need to feel connected to others is universal. We all need it. Decades ago, I was shocked to learn that almost everyone in a class I was taking only had one friend. At the time, I'm not sure if I had even that. And I mistakenly thought everyone else had loads of friends. Over the decades, I've learned that "family" is where you make it." My closest friends have become my family. I wish I'd had a greater sense of connection from my parents. I didn't. I don't think they knew how. It's not that they were in any way bad people. Again, they just didn't know how to do it. They had acquaintances, but no close friends. It's hard. But look at you. Despite the neglect you experienced as a child, you've always been there for your girls when you're well. That's so very, very important. I have two friends that I see weekly. Our time together is part structured, part unstructured. We share a meal and we take turns answering these questions: What was your best and worst this week? What was your progress this week? What are your goals for the coming week? So simple, yet I can't begin to tell you how much those two hours mean to me, to us. We've been doing it for years. What brought my two friends and I together was a fundraiser, then many years later, a common, shared goal that we each wanted to work toward. In a sense, you have that here with us... diabetes. :) Sadness is a funny thing. It's with us, sometimes for a long time, then something shifts, and it's gone. It helps to have others who listen, who support us as we ride it out... Find ways to take care of yourself. Eat the best foods you can. Take walks. Look for simple acts of kindness when you're out and about. Make the time you need for sleep, rest and relaxation. Find something, anything that you enjoy. Perhaps a good movie or book. Keep talking. Like chalup said, "we are here to listen.". [/QUOTE]
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