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Help! I have so much weight to lose

zand said:
Well if you were surprised by my last post...wait till you've read this one!
Today I made the decision that from now on, whenever possible I will stay at SW for the whole meeting. Why? Well I found myself writing in another thread yesterday that I have been so focussed on myself and my goals that I had forgotten how to think of others. I want to be 'nicer'. Then the revelation came that Yes, I do want to be nicer again, but unlike in the past it's not because I want others to like me, I won't be a 'people pleaser' again. I just want to be me, if people don't like me, they don't like me. Does it really matter? So if I am in a group of 20 women and 2 men :eek: and they don't like me...am I going to be bothered? I don't think so! :) I can't believe I have reacted so badly to the comments of others. I had more maturity at 5 (when my friend said she had new friends and didn't want to play with me anymore) than I had at 55! Now if someone doesn't like me does that mean I shouldn't tell them something that is going to benefit them? Of course not, well not if I have a conscience anyway. :) So today when I was sitting with all those people and was asked about how I had lost so much weight, I told them. :) I was careful to stay within boundaries, after all I feel I need to have some respect for Slimming World when I am on their territory, so I kept it light. Now I need to build relationships there. I did start conversations with several women today.
Sometimes I get a little irritated by a minority of people on this forum when they refuse to listen to good advice even when the same advice comes to them from very many people. But hey there's a whole world of people out there, all talking about 'that programme about diabetes' last week, and some were at the SW meeting today. So if they don't fancy the Newcastle Diet, don't they deserve to know at least the LC bit of my diet? I've lost more weight this time, both per week, and in total, than I did when I had only 600 calories for 7 weeks. I spoke to the SW consultant privately to tell her I was doing my own diet and she was really helpful and gave me a different booklet with recipes and meal ideas that mostly suit LCHF (I'd just need to substitute the low-fat fats in their recipes for the real stuff that I eat now)
My weight is now back to what it was in May 2008, which was when all my health problems started and when I first discovered LCHF ( I didn't know the name then though!), but I couldn't continue it then as my kidneys weren't doing well because my blood pressure was so high. I am so grateful that I have had my heart operation now and that I was given the chance to have a new procedure tested on me. I really appreciate being able to walk as far as 14 miles in a day; this has undoubtedly helped my weight loss and yes metformin is helping too. I have done the morning walking alongside a good diet before and not lost weight, so I am convinced that metformin and occasional long walks are the difference this time.
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I know you are not interested in whether people like you anymore, zand, but I just liked you. Why?
Well because this is so positive. You are talking to people, real people, and you are standing up for something you believe in, and sharing helpful information with others. You are on the way to being as well as you can, and I am glad you sound happier than you have in ages.
 
Yes thank you Pipp, all of this personality and emotional stuff is as important to me as the diet and exercise because I am sure that's what got in the way when I tried to lose weight before, that and insulin resistance of course.
 
zand said:
Yes thank you Pipp, all of this personality and emotional stuff is as important to me as the diet and exercise because I am sure that's what got in the way when I tried to lose weight before, that and insulin resistance of course.
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I have a new name for you ... For a couple of reasons.

Iron Maiden. :-)


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peacetrain said:
I have a new name for you ... For a couple of reasons.

Iron Maiden. :)


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lol Love it!!! :)Thanks I will remember that when I am feeling down and need to find that 'bit extra' to carry on with this. I have had a few comments from people on this thread which I use as motivation when I need to push myself to get on with things....this has been added to the list! I'm really glad you didn't say Iron Lady!

I've just carried my son's weights upstairs (one at a time, because my left arm isn't quite strong enough for me to manage the two at once....yet). I weighed one on my bathroom scales...9 kg's ...I've lost around 11 kg's now :) . So that's helped to encourage me too.

Right, I'm back down to earth now after this week's weight loss (which I am calling a 'perfect' week)! I know I can't ever do better than that, so now I have to work hard and hope I can lose another pound this week, or at least stay the same. oops, time to go to chiropractor...
 
I had an appointment with my GP today and he is really pleased with my weight loss so he has given me another 12 weeks at Slimming World.

I went for a meal with my family last night and for the first time since I was a teenager I had 3 courses, all carb and calorie counted on myfitnesspal before I left home. My son's girlfriend noticed that I had lost weight since I last saw her just over 3 weeks ago.

Today in the doctor's waiting room - well you know what it's like everyone sits around ignoring one another and looking miserable and then some idiot comes in and starts making conversation......the idiot today was me. When I got home I had a phonecall from my dentist. I had a tooth extracted 3 months ago and am having an implant. He is running a training course for other dentists and wanted to record my procedure to use in his course. I can't really believe I said yes, but I did. The only reservation I had was that it's in the evening, so I may need to record a football match if I'm missing one. I'm not really sure how/why I am changing so much, because yes I am losing weight, but I have been this weight before. I am not going back to how I was then, I am moving forward into being someone new. This has to be good right? After all it was the old me who got to be so very fat, so maybe this time I will lose the weight and keep it off because I don't need it anymore? I'm rambling again aren't I? Sorry, I'll leave you in peace now and I'll go and have one last look at son's case before I take him to the airport. I really hope we haven't forgotten anything.
 
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If he has passport, flight and footie tickets, plus cash and plastic, he can deal with being one pair of boxers short, if it comes to it.
 
And another supportive appointment with you doc. He must have been very pleased with your progress?
 
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Zand, I'm so pleased at your apparent change of character. You're feeling good about life for the first time in a long time, that gives you confidence, and the more confidence you have, the more opportunities will present themselves to you, you will now have a different colour aura and seems like you're practically magnetic for all the joys of life, people interaction, etc.

Long may it last and last and last........................... :singing: xxx
 
lunarlinda said:
Zand, I'm so pleased at your apparent change of character. You're feeling good about life for the first time in a long time, that gives you confidence, and the more confidence you have, the more opportunities will present themselves to you, you will now have a different colour aura and seems like you're practically magnetic for all the joys of life, people interaction, etc.

Long may it last and last and last........................... :singing: xxx
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thanks lunarlinda, I'm pleased too, and I like the singing smilie......very apt because I am singing alot more too.
 
Oh Arsene Wenger how could you let Cesc Fabregas sign for Chelsea! Not a happy household. May not renew memberships now
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AndBreathe said:
And another supportive appointment with you doc. He must have been very pleased with your progress?
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Sorry I missed this message last night, yes he was very pleased with my progress. He said my weight loss was phenomenal. My blood tests were all fine except the liver one which was a little worse than last time, but I know the two reasons for that .....too many carbs on holiday and I'm now taking metformin so my liver doesn't dump so much now. It's been much worse than this, so I'll sort it out eventually. I've done it before.
 
I have been reading your posts today, what an inspiring lady!! Stay strong, I know that we will eventually read that you have achieved your targets, you seem so motivated, and have so much insight into yourself! x
 
Thank you Moondance I needed a bit of a 'lift' today. This insight into myself is mostly new - it started to happen when I started this thread. It's just amazing, I would never have guessed that could happen. I really hope I can achieve my target this time.....we'll see.....
 
zand said:
Thank you Moondance I needed a bit of a 'lift' today. This insight into myself is mostly new - it started to happen when I started this thread. It's just amazing, I would never have guessed that could happen. I really hope I can achieve my target this time.....we'll see.....
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No doubt you will, zand, and by continuing with your thread postings will pull others along with you ( me included). Sorry if that is threatening, but we are inspired by your honesty in posts here.
 
Oh, really? I am just about finished with the self counselling now, so I was going to do less posts now....OK I'll just move forward and see what happens.
 
zand said:
Oh, really? I am just about finished with the self counselling now, so I was going to do less posts now....OK I'll just move forward and see what happens.
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Footy, best therapy, zand.
Your first responsibility is to yourself, so let us get on with it!
 
Sorry for that random post lol.
I now know that if I work hard over the next week and use up 3500 calories I will loose 1lb. That has inspired me to go on.

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I wish it were that simple, Jamrox.
Doesn't seem to work that way for me, more random.
 
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