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Jojoscorpio

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My husband is 41, type 2 for 2 years now but does not seem to care about the condition or what it is doing to him. I fully understand the dangers as my brother is type 1 and going blind, but my husband doesn't feel any different and won't change his lifestyle. He consistently has high blood sugar of around 17-25, for at least the last year, he eats chocolate, drinks pints of fresh juice, no exercise, and has only seen his nurse once for a check up, and has never had his eyes checked. At his only check up last November 2011 his sugar was 81mmol. He is 6 ft 1, 17 stone, and has had high cholesterol, stress, sleep apnoea , and other weight related problems. He has recently lost a bit of weight from not binge drinking so often, and he is pleased with that!
I would (sadly) like to find someone similar who has unfortunately been in a similar situation and has now paid the price through complications. I want to know how long it will be before a sustained high blood sugar creates a significant problem. Nothing has scared him to change so far, not even his kids crying, and I don't know what to do. He has no willpower, buys his own treats, and is completely selfish.
Desperate.
 
he is probably scared himself can the drs not give him medication or insulin at least that may help if he really cant cut down its not easy when you know you are harming yourself i smoke enough said
 
Hi Jojo,

My daughter is a community nurse. During her training, she spent time working in the local dialysis unit. She observed that well over 50% of people on dialysis were Type 2 diabetics, several had limbs missing and partial or total blindness. These observations were sufficent to keep me focussed! The frightening thing about type 2 is its insidiousness. Deterioration progress is very slow and hence we tend to think we will never be affected as nothing changes from one day to the next and when we pig out, there are no immediate side effects. Problem is that once complications hit us, they are all too often irreversable. Can you not talk hubby into attending an X-pert course?

Good Luck - Steve
 
Jojoscorpio said:
My husband is 41, type 2 for 2 years now but does not seem to care about the condition or what it is doing to him. I fully understand the dangers as my brother is type 1 and going blind, but my husband doesn't feel any different and won't change his lifestyle. He consistently has high blood sugar of around 17-25, for at least the last year, he eats chocolate, drinks pints of fresh juice, no exercise, and has only seen his nurse once for a check up, and has never had his eyes checked. At his only check up last November 2011 his sugar was 81mmol. He is 6 ft 1, 17 stone, and has had high cholesterol, stress, sleep apnoea , and other weight related problems. He has recently lost a bit of weight from not binge drinking so often, and he is pleased with that!
I would (sadly) like to find someone similar who has unfortunately been in a similar situation and has now paid the price through complications. I want to know how long it will be before a sustained high blood sugar creates a significant problem. Nothing has scared him to change so far, not even his kids crying, and I don't know what to do. He has no willpower, buys his own treats, and is completely selfish.
Desperate.
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Hi jojo I feel so sorry for the persons family, they have to look on and see the devastating way the person is treating their body and medical condition. I don't understand it myself and I can only hope that, one day, lots he will look after himself, but it will have to come from him with willpower and determination. Your last sentence says it all :shock: Your poor children, that is so sad, its heartbreaking for them :cry:

Best wishes and take care of yourself RRB
 
Hi i am the same as your hubby my kids 23 and 27 get on my case i have decided to step out of this denial as when on my own i am scared of complications i am type 2 diagnosed 7 years ago ..... I am selfish and ashamed because there are toddlers out there with this condition and they have to listen.I Am 8 stone over weight also on a healthy eating plan now .what shiffted me is reading this site good luck and hope hubby takes his condition seriously before it jumps up on him x

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Jojo, your husband is me. I was (am) exactly like your husband. I am 59 years old and have not paid attention to my situation UNTIL TODAY. I have 2 large ulsers on the bottum of my left foot that would not heal. Today I was told that they have to amputate my foot next week.
Please encurage your husband to look after himself because this is a slow and cruel disease and when it is too late it is too late. Your husband could wind up like he sitting here crying my eyes out and kicking myself for not doing what I knew had to be done.
Don`t let your husband be me, even if you have to beat him into looking after himself do it.
Good luck
Lynn
 
Hi JoJo

Your husband's story reminds me of myself. Diagnosed as a teenager, unfortunately I could never come to terms with it and did not want to be different in any way to my peers. Bad habits developed then persisted into adulthood and I never tested my bg's, ate what I like and even underinjected to avoid putting on weight.
Eventually I developed retinopathy but still thought I was ok as I had not had any laser. Then three years ago I fell pregnant unexpectedly and had to suddenly lower my blood glucose readings, so my hba1c went from around 10 to around 5.5 in a matter of weeks. This saved the baby, but unfortunately led to me developing severe PDR which resulted in a massive bleed in one eye, as a sharp reduction in bgs can do this, and I had to spend all my life savings on an operation to fix it. The operation stopped me losing the retina but resulted in some damage to that eye that is permanent.
I now feel like the retinopathy is the big curse in my life. I am petrified it will return, the DVLA are on my case to see if I can keep my license ( I am more scared of losing my driving licence than anything) and I have suffered so much worry and stress from it in the last year that it has given me an anxiety disorder.
The problem with retinopathy is that it does not just go away once you decide to start taking care of yourself. In fact, much of the time it gets worse initially. Like a smoker who gives up cigarettes only to find it makes their lung cancer get worse for a few years.
I hope and pray that it will leave me alone now but it is always at the back of my mind that it will come back. Due to my eye operation (the surgeon tore a little hole in my retina, I do not blame him for this as it happens very easily in this type of surgey) I have permanent damage in one eye every time I close my good eye I can see it and am reminded of my stupidity in ignoring my diabetes when I was younger.
I feel like I have ruined my health through my actions, and whilst too strong to say ruined my life certainly it has been the worst thing that ever happened to me and affected me deeply, I cannot enjoy life as I once did due to this 'curse' in my life.
Your husband needs to wake up and face reality - or one day reality will come and smack him in the face like it did to me.
Sadly he needs to realise this himself - you can't do it for him.
Unfortunately life is not a dress rehearsal and you don't get a second chance.

Good luck.
 
hi , i hope my story scares your husband into looking after himself...i was diagnosed diabetic tyoe 2 when i was 23 years old,i used to be a chef and never ate properly,i was on metformin at the time,but because this wasnt working i was put onto insulin as well, and yet still i didnt look after myself.i then had a accident which caused me to have a infection in my feet,this leg to septicemia and gangrene,which led to me losing my leg,meanwhile i've have laser surgery to my eyes.kidny problems,heart problems and now i have trouble with my intestines,and to top it off,i have lost my other leg,all down to me not looking after myself,i dont want or need any sympathy as its all down to my own fault ,and if my story helps one person to not go through what has happened to me, then i will be glad
please pass this on to anybody who thinks diabetes isnt that bad
 
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