Being a parent

[Bluecream28]

Hi, has anyone got some advice for me please. My ex partner was diagnosed with type 1 8 mths ago. The problem is he has created a life for himself controlling everything he does. Which he says he feels he has control off his diabetes. The problem is when he has our son he can't cope and says feels stressed and his bloods are a mess which he days only happen when he has our son , he now is not keen to have him as neither off them enjoy it, he only has him for 2 hrs max . I want to help as he use to be a great dad but now our son Dosent fit it his new life . Iv suggested watching him at my house for half a hour spending quality time and building it up but then that takes it away from his house where he feels the stress and responsibility too much. Would that be a bad idea as he would get use to not having him and stress even more if our son was in his house. Our son is 2 so a handful. Tia x

 

[Scandichic]

You need to do whatever works for you all. If what you've suggested is ok by you both then why not? It's not for anyone else to tell you what's right or wrong. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and a big hug!!!!!

 

[Hooked]

What about organising an afternoon out for the three of you, somewhere your son would enjoy?|
Whether your ex likes it or not, the diabetes and your son are not going anywhere and he'll have to learn to mix the two together. Hopefully in time he will learn to adapt. He should speak to his diabetes team about how to cope with the more stressful days and if perhaps changes should be made to his doses on those days. Good luck x

 

[Jaylee]

You need to do whatever works for you all. If what you've suggested is ok by you both then why not? It's not for anyone else to tell you what's right or wrong. Good luck with whatever you decide to do and a big hug!!!!!

I agree with Scandichic.. If your "ex" was asking advice on diabetes control regarding keeping up with an active 2 year old?
Then any advice given on the matter might be deemed more appropriate.. (In my view.)

Wishing the three of you the best of luck.

 

[Spiker]

I refuse to let my diabetes come in the way of me seeing my children as much as possible and having the best quality time with them, unless it really is a serious crisis. I modify my regime to accommodate them, eg running slightly less tight control (as you would do when driving a car). I don't modify my relationship with them to accommodate diabetes.