hi, this is my first post ever. i'm a very frustrated husband of a 36 yr old diabetic who cannot seem to control her diabetes. she was diagnosed at 16, but we think she was ill a long time before that. my problem is over the last 20 yrs she has not got to grips with the severity of her situation. she eats a lot of crisps, chocolate, drinks to excess regularly and rarely eats a balanced meal.she's never deliberately missed an injection but has forgot on occasions. all of this is causing her to go rollercoasting through highs and lows and it's not good for her.already complaining of always being cold and her feet hurting ( i don't know if this is circulation or that she likes her feet massaged by me) it is only getting worse.i want to be there for her but she keeps pushing me away and never talks about it. i was only allowed once to go to the doctors with her but had to sit in the car. i hate going behind her back talking on here but i don't know what to do. i think i need to talk to her doctor but will patient confidentiality come into play. i could do with some advice to help her. thanks in anticipation, 1968ge