Whoa! Too much caring. Who cares for the carer? Definitely take a step back, if you can. It won't be easy but your wellbeing may depend on it.I think it's time for me to take a step back. I have been so stressed this week and I am still trying to care for my mum and my partner suffers from depression.
But its a start....... Well done in getting this far without hostilities breaking out.Hi everyone,
Just thought I would pop in and say hello and give you a quick update.
The low carb diet seems to be working Dad's blood sugar was 19 and now is 13, still not good but better.
He is eating well because he eats what I give him, left to his own devices who knows. He spoke to the nurse about diet and from what I gathered she gave him different advice.
So who knows who he will listen to once he has to start cooking for himself.
He really wants bread and biscuits and custard and I think not getting what he wants is making him miserable. He did go out with a friend for a Diet Coke, but again the no alcohol thing isn't pleasing him.
He is pleased with the results of his diet but he keeps going back over what they gave him in hospital and why can't he have that now.
Not sure he is totally committed to low carb.
Well Lidl high protein rolls take a little bit of getting used to, but they are so very filling, much better than normal bread.He really wants bread and biscuits and custard
YES!!! They gave him potatoes, white bread, jelly and custard, pancakes.But its a start....... Well done in getting this far without hostilities breaking out.
Edit to add: He actually likes hospital food????????
Well Lidl high protein rolls take a little bit of getting used to, but they are so very filling, much better than normal bread.
You are doing really well, maybe the rebel in him will want to follow what you say and not the nurse?
I feel for you, I really do. All you can do is your best and then shrug your shoulders and let him get on with it. My Dad would never do what he was told. I am sure that's why he died. He went to hospital to have an operation. He was recovering well then got upset because another patient had a whole bathroom to himself. My Dad was told not to use it and it was cordoned off from the rest of the ward. My Dad thought he was being really clever lifting up the tape and popping in there instead of going along the short corridor to the other bathroom. He contracted MRSA and died less than 2 weeks later. There's not a lot you can do to help stubborn parents, just do your best.
Yeh, it was, that was over 20 years ago though so it doesn't hurt anymore, this is the first time* I have told anyone other than my hubby. I just wanted you to know that sometimes, no matter how hard you try, dads can be damned annoyingOMG that's terrible Zand. I am so sorry what an awful thing to happen.
I set Agree to your last sentance,I feel for you, I really do. All you can do is your best and then shrug your shoulders and let him get on with it. My Dad would never do what he was told. I am sure that's why he died. He went to hospital to have an operation. He was recovering well then got upset because another patient had a whole bathroom to himself. My Dad was told not to use it and it was cordoned off from the rest of the ward. My Dad thought he was being really clever lifting up the tape and popping in there instead of going along the short corridor to the other bathroom. He contracted MRSA and died less than 2 weeks later. There's not a lot you can do to help stubborn parents, just do your best.
So long as he keeps testing he will soon work out which diet is better for him. Just remind him of the numbers.
I feel your pain.So long as I keep testing him and controlling his food. He won't make the effort for himself. My mum was late making dinner last night and he threatened to order a Chinese takeaway.
He sounds a right old curmudgeon.. maybe get some brochures from the nearest funeral home and ask him which kind of coffin he would like? Depending on your relationship that could be a make or break scenario...So long as I keep testing him and controlling his food. He won't make the effort for himself. My mum was late making dinner last night and he threatened to order a Chinese takeaway.
Your a better person than me. I think I would have killed him by now. He is blackmailing you both into doing his bidding by threatening to self harm unless you jump through hoops whenever he says. He sounds very controlling. Maybe its time for you both to stop pandering to him, it sounds very tiring.So long as I keep testing him and controlling his food. He won't make the effort for himself. My mum was late making dinner last night and he threatened to order a Chinese takeaway.
Your a better person than me. I think I would have killed him by now. He is blackmailing you both into doing his bidding by threatening to self harm unless you jump through hoops whenever he says. He sounds very controlling. Maybe its time for you both to stop pandering to him, it sounds very tiring.
Good plan.I said I would give him 6 weeks until he recovers from surgery, blood sugars are continuing to come down. After that he needs to take responsibility for himself, I'm not like my mother I won't feel guilty because I know I have done my best.
Yes a good plan. Maybe after your ministrations and his blood sugars come down to a reasonable level he will start to feel better in himself. And though he may not admit it that increased feeling of well-being may encourage him to maintain that.I said I would give him 6 weeks until he recovers from surgery, blood sugars are continuing to come down. After that he needs to take responsibility for himself, I'm not like my mother I won't feel guilty because I know I have done my best.
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